The answer is simple… RUN.

No, literally…. RUN!!

When we allow ourselves to linger in a particular situation where we are alone with a potential “sex-recipient,” our sexual impulses can be subtly aroused. Those desires, as slow as they may come, never stay at a flat level. They always escalate through time and emotional exchange. And when both time and emotional exchange are present with being alone with the other person, those desires then become very difficult to fight off and forget.

Why put ourselves in such a position anyway?

Nevertheless, if the both of you are alone and you both have the urge to have sex… face it… your chemical make-up naturally screams for you to fulfill that urge. That’s why you can’t linger. You can’t just walk away.

You need to do a “slap in the face” to your sexual urge. Whenever someone thinks of anything desirable, when they are slapped in the face, that thought process is quickly and abruptly turned off. Your sexual urge is slapped in the face and abruptly turned off when you PHYSICALLY RUN AWAY. This was completely necessary for Joseph!

Genesis 39:7-12

7 and after a while his master’s wife took notice of Joseph and said, “Come to bed with me!”

8 But he refused. “With me in charge,” he told her, “my master does not concern himself with anything in the house; everything he owns he has entrusted to my care.

9 No one is greater in this house than I am. My master has withheld nothing from me except you, because you are his wife. How then could I do such a wicked thing and sin against God?”

10 And though she spoke to Joseph day after day, he refused to go to bed with her or even be with her.

11 One day he went into the house to attend to his duties, and none of the household servants was inside.

12 She caught him by his cloak and said, “Come to bed with me!” But he left his cloak in her hand and ran out of the house.

Even Paul suggests this.


1 Corinthians 6:18

18 Flee fornication. Every sin that a man does is outside the body; but he who commits fornication sins against his own body.

Fornication is literally sex outside of marriage. To “flee” means to physically RUN! Run from fornication. Run from sex. Run away.

Sins in general destroy the purity of your heart, but sex outside of marriage destroys the purity of your body. That is something to be cherished, to be valued, and kept whole.

Even if part of your clothes are left at the scene, run away and flee fornication.