MOVE OUT OF THE WAY

I will be the first one to say that if you are looking to live your life "on the down low" (and in this case, I mean away from people that you don't want contacting you), My Space is the last place you need to be! Just last week, I was contacted by two people that I haven't spoken to in shoot, at least 15 years.

On the flip side, if you're nosey, it's a great place to find out about your "past" without them knowing it. I ain't perfect so yes, of this, I have been guilty. Case in point: Also last week, I noticed that one of my "past concubines" (that's what I call the men I used to know in a not-so-very-God-fearing-way) was listed on one of my friend's pages.

As I thought back and tried to recall the last time I saw or heard from this guy, I must admit that it has to have been at least 5-7 years ago and even then it didn't really end well. That's the thing about sin. Even though it was '94-95 when things were "hot-n-heavy" between us, even years later, the residue of forbidden fruit still found itself sticking to us...but that's not really my point for sharing this.

My real point is that while I was sure he would be a success in the professional world, what his My Space page revealed caught me COMPLETELY off guard! Here was the guy who showed me my first porn flick as a means of foreplay preaching about Jesus and when I say preaching, I mean...shoot, I thought I was inundated with scripture!

It was borderline mind-boggling to witness the guy who I once found myself sneakin' and creepin' with at all hours of the day and night refer to himself as a soldier of the Lord; not because God didn't think he was worthy (obviously), but because our relationship was so carnally, OK, LUST-driven that I didn't think he was capable. I know that's pretty presumptuous, but shoot, every time we exchanged words, numbers, or energies, sex with each other---in thought, word or deed---somehow found its way into our space.

And then I thought about something I heard a pastor say once: "God wants your ex saved too, but that doesn't necessarily mean that he wants you doing it."

Now, you all know by now that I am pretty blunt so let me just say that when I was in close proximity with this guy "getting him saved" wasn't on my list of things to do, but that's actually just my point: SOMETIMES THE BEST THING YOU CAN DO FOR SOMEONE IS GET OUT OF THEIR WAY.

I can't tell you how many times I have thought about someone in my past and said, "I wonder what they are doing now. Maybe I'll give them a call", but their number was disconnected or their email address had changed. The truth is, sometimes, speaking with me, for whatever reason, was the last thing those people needed at that particular stage in their lives. Sometimes, praying for them and sending well wishes their way from afar is actually the best thing you can do because a stroll down memory's lane can end up being a bumpy ride that can cause some people to fall off of their wagon towards personal fullfillment and success (I just made that up...pretty cool, huh?)

So, I must admit that I was tempted to make a "friend request" with my ex, but I decided to let it ride. When we were talking all we were doing was watching porn and cheating on our mates and since we've not chatted he has gotten married, become a parent and most importantly gotten to know Christ.

Like I said, sometimes the best you can do for someone is move out of the way---and if you're like me, go on My Space and wish them the best---in your own mind or also like me...ANONYMOUSLY on your own blog. :-)

Stephen wrote on October 13th 07 at 05:36AM

Hi,

I think that is an interesting point. Praying from afar and getting out of their way. I mean I have tried and tried to change those around me like, my Dad and in the past couple of weeks more change has happened then I could ever imagine!! All through me moving away, backing off and getting out of His face. A lot of respect still needs to be learnt by me. But it is to the glory of God that my Dad has changed, But Why? and I repeate WHY? Has Porno been such a hugely BIGGER struggle now then it has in the past? I had made so many inroads in changing the way I think and stopping myself from looking at porn, but now that internet connections are around me everyday it seems it is literally sucking the strength out of me. I must have something badly skewed but what is it? The root, the cause?

Thank you for sharing your story butterfly. That is a part of my story. Not so proud of.

Stephen

Dalton Perse wrote on October 16th 07 at 09:12AM

Awesome this is very true and it's awesome how the Lord works in very mysterious ways. Anyways, it was a blessing to read this and I know it has helped me and will help many others. God bless ya

Dalton