Recovery its a rough road
Hey there, been on the road to recovery for last 12 months, or maybe longer and one thing is for sure its not easy. Perhaps if watching porn with masturbation was slightly less pleasurable then I may be able to stay away for longer. I'm married by the way and porn messed things up for us sexually and I lost a really good job though my 'addiction' to web porn. Anyway I believe in redemption and struggle on with other men I know who talk honest about it. Part of the recovery is cognitive therapy - telling your self truths about your feelings or state of mind about lifting you up out of the triggers to behave with porn. Scripture is good for this if not a good daily guide on sexual addiction does help. Then secondly a really strict routine avoiding big gaps when you are tired and alone (the most vulnerable time). If you have any more tools please feel free to share them.
Oliver wrote on July 1st 09 at 11:44PM
There is a godly tool:
Walk in the Spirit and you will not fulfill the lusts of the flesh (Gal. 5:16).
Victory in Jesus
Walk in the Spirit and you will not fulfill the lusts of the flesh (Gal. 5:16).
Victory in Jesus
Mark wrote on July 2nd 09 at 09:38AM
Here's some of my strategies, and they work for me.
Since God has already bought me through the cross, I say, I have no right to look at or think about any of that, because he owns me, I am not my own anymore.
Second, I remind myself, all those thoughts and images are not real, and are actually illusions, and therefore not worth being involved in.
After I think those things and pray about them, the urges pass.
Since God has already bought me through the cross, I say, I have no right to look at or think about any of that, because he owns me, I am not my own anymore.
Second, I remind myself, all those thoughts and images are not real, and are actually illusions, and therefore not worth being involved in.
After I think those things and pray about them, the urges pass.
Yuriy wrote on July 3rd 09 at 10:13PM
Shalom to your brothers! I have read almost all comments you posted and thank God there is this website. I need desperately confess because this the way how we can fight the satan - by confession. I like the Psalm of David 51. I have qouted the major part of confession of king David. (Sorry in advance for a huge message).
I am married for 3 years now. But i was addicted to pornography and sexual immortality from childhood. It's shameful to say but my cousin brother made me involve in some immortality. Then best friend offered to watch porno. i started from the age of 20 years to visit prostitutes and "see girls". everywhere i was i had contact with prostitute - Thailand, Singapore, Austria, Russia, Philippines. I became chrstian thanks to God (God sent bunch of christians from US to my country and i was saved). But still i had been attending girls and watch porno and all other related things. I had been asking God to freed me up from this sin and to give me a wife. I thought if i had wife it would be gone (i recalled verse from Bible where apostol Paul said if you can live without wife and devote yourself to God it's blessing. otherwise get married. I can not find this exact verse so i just put it how i remember. sorry for my english). But even when i got married the same things happened but not very regular. every time i commit adultery or watch pornography i feel so awefull, useless and unfaithfull to God and to wife and to all my commitements. Fear comes is that God will punish me and my future children; how it happened with David. Satan knows the Bible very well - he says ussually God is faithful to His Word and He will punish you. This fear and feeling of unfaithfulness every time bring me to very down mood. I have been christian for 11 years already. I am assistant of cell group leader and involved in some of the business projects in the church. what I am trying to say is that i have a small ministry. But during all this satan has been holding me in this sin. You know brothers, i need God's help and your prayer (advise is working but Bible says in Mathew 17:21 But this kind does not go out except by prayer and fasting).
Right now i am writing you this message after i again commit adultery with prostitute and don't really know how to deal with it. the Spirit in me is crying after each time, but i am very addicted to this. I recall what Jesus Christ did for me and my family. His 3 fold blessing never left me even for a moment. Every time i commit sin i am like one of those people who crucified Jesus, every my sin is painful to Jesus. Knowing this i am still in sin. I know there is noone except for Jesus who is Holy, but it's not an excuse. ONLY BECAUSE OF GOD's GREAT GREAT GREAT MERCY i am still with Him and blessed and not forgoten by Him. If i was in the ancient time i would have been beaten to death many times!!! Well, ok. I have attached the verse i feel like confession. God know each heart and mine also. That's the way to ask God to help me in this difficult situation, and I am confessing and saying: without God i am zero, dust (and can come back to dust) and worthless. But in Him i am strong. Can you please pray for me and put in writting a prayer as a comment not only for me but for everyone who is addicted.
Here is a verse:
Psalm 51
For the director of music. A psalm of David. When the prophet Nathan came to him after David had committed adultery with Bathsheba.
1 Have mercy on me, O God,
according to your unfailing love;
according to your great compassion
blot out my transgressions.
2 Wash away all my iniquity
and cleanse me from my sin.
3 For I know my transgressions,
and my sin is always before me.
4 Against you, you only, have I sinned
and done what is evil in your sight,
so that you are proved right when you speak
and justified when you judge.
5 Surely I was sinful at birth,
sinful from the time my mother conceived me.
6 Surely you desire truth in the inner parts [a] ;
you teach [b] me wisdom in the inmost place.
7 Cleanse me with hyssop, and I will be clean;
wash me, and I will be whiter than snow.
8 Let me hear joy and gladness;
let the bones you have crushed rejoice.
9 Hide your face from my sins
and blot out all my iniquity.
10 Create in me a pure heart, O God,
and renew a steadfast spirit within me.
11 Do not cast me from your presence
or take your Holy Spirit from me.
12 Restore to me the joy of your salvation
and grant me a willing spirit, to sustain me.
13 Then I will teach transgressors your ways,
and sinners will turn back to you.
14 Save me from bloodguilt, O God,
the God who saves me,
and my tongue will sing of your righteousness.
15 O Lord, open my lips,
and my mouth will declare your praise.
16 You do not delight in sacrifice, or I would bring it;
you do not take pleasure in burnt offerings.
17 The sacrifices of God are [c] a broken spirit;
a broken and contrite heart,
O God, you will not despise.
GOD BLESS YOU BROTHERS! I want to attend this site very often to declare the win of Jesus (we don't need to fight Jesus has won already).
I am married for 3 years now. But i was addicted to pornography and sexual immortality from childhood. It's shameful to say but my cousin brother made me involve in some immortality. Then best friend offered to watch porno. i started from the age of 20 years to visit prostitutes and "see girls". everywhere i was i had contact with prostitute - Thailand, Singapore, Austria, Russia, Philippines. I became chrstian thanks to God (God sent bunch of christians from US to my country and i was saved). But still i had been attending girls and watch porno and all other related things. I had been asking God to freed me up from this sin and to give me a wife. I thought if i had wife it would be gone (i recalled verse from Bible where apostol Paul said if you can live without wife and devote yourself to God it's blessing. otherwise get married. I can not find this exact verse so i just put it how i remember. sorry for my english). But even when i got married the same things happened but not very regular. every time i commit adultery or watch pornography i feel so awefull, useless and unfaithfull to God and to wife and to all my commitements. Fear comes is that God will punish me and my future children; how it happened with David. Satan knows the Bible very well - he says ussually God is faithful to His Word and He will punish you. This fear and feeling of unfaithfulness every time bring me to very down mood. I have been christian for 11 years already. I am assistant of cell group leader and involved in some of the business projects in the church. what I am trying to say is that i have a small ministry. But during all this satan has been holding me in this sin. You know brothers, i need God's help and your prayer (advise is working but Bible says in Mathew 17:21 But this kind does not go out except by prayer and fasting).
Right now i am writing you this message after i again commit adultery with prostitute and don't really know how to deal with it. the Spirit in me is crying after each time, but i am very addicted to this. I recall what Jesus Christ did for me and my family. His 3 fold blessing never left me even for a moment. Every time i commit sin i am like one of those people who crucified Jesus, every my sin is painful to Jesus. Knowing this i am still in sin. I know there is noone except for Jesus who is Holy, but it's not an excuse. ONLY BECAUSE OF GOD's GREAT GREAT GREAT MERCY i am still with Him and blessed and not forgoten by Him. If i was in the ancient time i would have been beaten to death many times!!! Well, ok. I have attached the verse i feel like confession. God know each heart and mine also. That's the way to ask God to help me in this difficult situation, and I am confessing and saying: without God i am zero, dust (and can come back to dust) and worthless. But in Him i am strong. Can you please pray for me and put in writting a prayer as a comment not only for me but for everyone who is addicted.
Here is a verse:
Psalm 51
For the director of music. A psalm of David. When the prophet Nathan came to him after David had committed adultery with Bathsheba.
1 Have mercy on me, O God,
according to your unfailing love;
according to your great compassion
blot out my transgressions.
2 Wash away all my iniquity
and cleanse me from my sin.
3 For I know my transgressions,
and my sin is always before me.
4 Against you, you only, have I sinned
and done what is evil in your sight,
so that you are proved right when you speak
and justified when you judge.
5 Surely I was sinful at birth,
sinful from the time my mother conceived me.
6 Surely you desire truth in the inner parts [a] ;
you teach [b] me wisdom in the inmost place.
7 Cleanse me with hyssop, and I will be clean;
wash me, and I will be whiter than snow.
8 Let me hear joy and gladness;
let the bones you have crushed rejoice.
9 Hide your face from my sins
and blot out all my iniquity.
10 Create in me a pure heart, O God,
and renew a steadfast spirit within me.
11 Do not cast me from your presence
or take your Holy Spirit from me.
12 Restore to me the joy of your salvation
and grant me a willing spirit, to sustain me.
13 Then I will teach transgressors your ways,
and sinners will turn back to you.
14 Save me from bloodguilt, O God,
the God who saves me,
and my tongue will sing of your righteousness.
15 O Lord, open my lips,
and my mouth will declare your praise.
16 You do not delight in sacrifice, or I would bring it;
you do not take pleasure in burnt offerings.
17 The sacrifices of God are [c] a broken spirit;
a broken and contrite heart,
O God, you will not despise.
GOD BLESS YOU BROTHERS! I want to attend this site very often to declare the win of Jesus (we don't need to fight Jesus has won already).
