My Own Prison

By Steve-Oh on Nov 02, 09 at 07:52 PM | Share This | Comments

A prisoner is defined as a person confined by any of various restraints, a person deprived of liberty and kept in prison or some other form of custody. Other terms used for prisoner are captive or hostage.Many men become addicted to pornography and lose their freedom. We feel trapped, out of control, and in despair. We literally become slaves to our own lust.

Porn is purely selfish-it gives nothing to anyone but the viewer and the porn producer. Porn for the male viewer has a singular purpose: It is a process that leads to climax. In marriage, the process leading to climax at least has the potential to be a binding, loving, giving experience for both the man and the woman. No such benefits exist with porn. And, in fact, when a husband is locked into the porn process leading to his private orgasms, this selfish attitude will nearly always spill over to his marriage. Over time, he will be less of a soul mate and more of an isolationist. Plus, sooner or later he will begin seeing his wife as an object similar to the porn images he views in order to achieve climax. Thus, pornography often turns intimacy in marriage into a totally selfish and narrow experience.

As a man gets lured into pornography's dark prison, he begins to lose his ability to see and appreciate women for who they truly are. He becomes blinded to women as valuable, gifted and contributing human beings. The more a man views pornography, the more he loses his sight, until finally he is, figuratively, completely blind. Not that he can no longer see with his physical eyes, but he becomes blinded emotionally and spiritually.

Don't be a prisoner to porn. Porn can capture and isolate you before you know it. Have an escape planned. I know in real life escaping from prison is a no-no but when it comes to pornography or masturbation (they both go hand in hand,no pun intended) we need something in place. For starters we need to go to the Lord. It says in Jeremiah 29 Then you will call upon me and come and pray to me, and I will listen to you. You will seek me and find me when you seek me with all your heart. I will be found by you," declares the LORD, "and will bring you back from captivity. Then we need to get some accountability. I know you hear this all the time but accountability is key to recovery and help. Make sure you have someone who is willing to have that conversation with you. Someone who is not scared to call you out ask you the tough questions. Next step is to get software on your PC to keep you from accessing any questionable sites and putting limits on the areas of your life where you struggle. Don't let porn hold you captive. Always have escape routes. Until next week...