shame
I was in full-time ministry and stumbled onto a porn website. I quickly turned it, but i later returned and now it's a year later and i've fought tooth and nail, but have lost again and again. Out of guilt because of the hypocrisy i was living i have left the ministry and am fighting to get on my feet spiritually speaking.
Make War wrote on June 26th 09 at 04:46PM
'Godly sorrow brings repentance that leads to salvation and leaves no regret, but worldly sorrow brings death' 2 Corinthians 7:10
Instead of feeling guilt and shame from your sexual sins, work and pray to feel 'godly sorrow' over them, that even though Jesus came and died for us and told us what is right, we basically chose to go against His plan and turned to sex and porn. In effect, our actions say that porn is better and more desireable than He is. May these actions lead us to godly sorrow, that we have sinned against God's name and been unglorifying to Him.
Repentance- '...how you turned to God from idols to serve the living and true God, and to wait for his Son from heaven, whom he raised from the dead- Jesus, who rescues us from the coming wrath.' 1 Thessalonians 1:9-10
Praying for you man right now, hope that you and I develop Godly sorrow over our past sins that will lead us to repentance, and turning from our sexual idols and turning to the true God
Instead of feeling guilt and shame from your sexual sins, work and pray to feel 'godly sorrow' over them, that even though Jesus came and died for us and told us what is right, we basically chose to go against His plan and turned to sex and porn. In effect, our actions say that porn is better and more desireable than He is. May these actions lead us to godly sorrow, that we have sinned against God's name and been unglorifying to Him.
Repentance- '...how you turned to God from idols to serve the living and true God, and to wait for his Son from heaven, whom he raised from the dead- Jesus, who rescues us from the coming wrath.' 1 Thessalonians 1:9-10
Praying for you man right now, hope that you and I develop Godly sorrow over our past sins that will lead us to repentance, and turning from our sexual idols and turning to the true God
Jason wrote on June 28th 09 at 03:46AM
I would just like to encourage you. The Lord loves you. He doesn't want you to attempt to will away a weakness of your flesh. That was my answer for the last two years. If you try to will away this problem, all you will do is extend the addiction cycle a little. Make war had the right idea. Don't run FROM porn. Instead, run TO God. All of this has to do with faith. Faith is not a magic power or some immeasurable thing that mystically makes us obey God. It is this simple: fervently and without question, accept and believe God's word, and do so without doubt. As I sat looking at myself after my family had been destroyed by my secret life, I realized my failure. I didn't believe God. Do you believe God? Do you believe Him in Romans when He said Jesus Christ will judge everyone's secret life? That scripture meant almost nothing to me, but now, it brings terror to me. I am terrified to fall into sin again. Why? I have suffered God's judgment for sexual immorality, and I want no part of it ever again. I have destroyed my marriage, and wounded my children. I want to love the next woman I am with (I am actually praying for reconciliation because the Lord told me to, but it isn't looking promising), like Christ loves the Church. I can NEVER say I have that love for her if I am looking at other nude women. When I look at my wife, I want her to have the assurance that she is the only woman for me. I will do this by destroying my rationalizations and the allowances I make for myself. I seek accountability in my life. I attend 12 step. I have internet accountability. But most importantly I believe God, and I believe IN God. He provides me with higher accountability than friends could, Believe!!! He's right there with you now and He sees your inmost thoughts. Turn to Him and tell him out loud. Say, "Lord, I want to follow and obey you, but I am tempted to look at this porn. Please help me. If you believe (I would be ashamed to masturbate with Jesus in the room with me, unless I was sure it was done in purity) God's word, then you know he can save you in those times.
Keith wrote on June 29th 09 at 02:33AM
Hi,
Know the struggle brother...I'm about done with a program that has helped me in a better walk. Please check it out...I't called living waters and it's run by a ministry Dessert streams...very biblicaly based and gets to the deep the the core issues that I faced. (Early porn use, parental issues. lies from the devil. Making wrong choices and the guilt and shame ) The 6 month program runs all across the country. Supported by many churches, but they are out side the church who many time can not or will not deal with the hard messy dirty stuff in our Christian walk.
I just needed somebody to say that God was still there for me in my brokeness and sin. I now can see my more freedom in Christ. Bless you.
KV
Know the struggle brother...I'm about done with a program that has helped me in a better walk. Please check it out...I't called living waters and it's run by a ministry Dessert streams...very biblicaly based and gets to the deep the the core issues that I faced. (Early porn use, parental issues. lies from the devil. Making wrong choices and the guilt and shame ) The 6 month program runs all across the country. Supported by many churches, but they are out side the church who many time can not or will not deal with the hard messy dirty stuff in our Christian walk.
I just needed somebody to say that God was still there for me in my brokeness and sin. I now can see my more freedom in Christ. Bless you.
KV
Leigh Kennedy wrote on June 30th 09 at 06:54AM
Hey brother,
I remember when I had this addiction,
One of my leaders gave me the best advice...
"Make sure the battle is won in the heart, if you try to fight it in your mind you will only get lost. So let the battle be won in your heart."
I remember, just before going to sleep, I said to God "I love You" and I also confessed "The joy of the Lord is my strength!" and I had an awesome sleep, and it has been a very long time since I have even taken a peek at porn.
I hope my advice has helped.
God bless,
Leigh
P.S. for direct prayer support, feel free to email prayer@planetshakers.com and you will be prayed for by thousands of intercessors. It certainly helped me a lot in my battle with pornography addiction!
I remember when I had this addiction,
One of my leaders gave me the best advice...
"Make sure the battle is won in the heart, if you try to fight it in your mind you will only get lost. So let the battle be won in your heart."
I remember, just before going to sleep, I said to God "I love You" and I also confessed "The joy of the Lord is my strength!" and I had an awesome sleep, and it has been a very long time since I have even taken a peek at porn.
I hope my advice has helped.
God bless,
Leigh
P.S. for direct prayer support, feel free to email prayer@planetshakers.com and you will be prayed for by thousands of intercessors. It certainly helped me a lot in my battle with pornography addiction!
