Porn Sucks!  5 Ways Porn Disconnects Us From Our Families

Hey, guys out there with a wife and kids!  This month on the XXXChurch Men’s blog we’re thinking about the consequences of porn.

Porn sucks… in many ways!  Porn is a leech draining life, energy, and passion that we could be giving our families.  Let’s get a broader understanding of how porn is affecting us and our famlies.

Time Suck – Our schedules are affected.  We’re behind a computer, on our phone, or in unhealthy places.  We become absentee fathers.  Essentially a part of us abandons our wives physically to be with our mistress.

Emotional Suck – Instead of bonding with our family we bond with images, videos, and chatroom connections.  Our hearts are siphoned off in devotion to pursuits outside our families.

Relational Suck – Relationships take time.  They are build on trust, love and intimacy.  Porn rapes us relationally.  We start preferring the fantasy world to the real.  We live more and more in hiding and isolation.

Mental Suck – Our mental energy goes to planning our computer time, sexual encounters and protecting our secrets.   Our fantasy lives dominate our thinking.  There’s no room for us to be captivated by our wives and mentally devoted to our kids.  Our creativity could be used to plan exciting date nights and family adventures, but we exhaust our creativity trying to find exciting, new porn adventures. 

Spiritual Suck – We can’t serve God and ourselves at the same time.  Porn is 100% selfish.  It’s an idol that replaces God.  Also, there’s no way we can have spiritual vision for our families and exercise leadership without the power of the Holy Spirit. 

A VISION OF FREEDOM
Let’s imagine the better husbands and fathers we could be if porn wasn’t sucking so much from our lives. 

God has designed us for His Kingdom work.  Your family is a key part of that. 

Freedom from porn is not just stopping bad behaviors.  It comes as we allow God to redeem our time, emotions, relationships, thinking, and spirit. 

One of my support group leaders challenged me to come up with a sexual purity mission statement.  It’s helped me develop a bigger vision of freedom.  Here’s what I came up with: 

I want take the creativity, energy and passion I gave to porn and pour them into God, my family, and others.  

Don’t let porn suck you away from your family!

Jeff Fisher is a blogger and podcaster living in Raleigh, North Carolina.  He and his wife run www.porntopurity.com.  Jeff’s podcast Top Tips For Sexual Purity Podcast (I-Tunes) is one of the more popular podcasts on sexual addiction recovery. 

You can reach Jeff at [email protected]