There’s a kind of magic that happens when I put an appointment on the calendar with another human being. It’s a commitment. It’s real. Versus when I just tell myself I’ll do something at some point this week. The chances of me actually completing it? They go up by at least 90%—maybe more.
On the other hand, when I just make a mental note to do the thing… Or even if I write it down on my massive, ever-growing to-do list (aka the list where dreams go to die)… It often just sits there. For days. Weeks. Sometimes years.
Why Do Some Things Take Years—And Others, Just a Day?
I can’t tell you how many times I’ve had something on my to-do list for months (or let’s be real—years), only to finally commit to meeting with someone about it. And suddenly, that thing I’ve avoided forever is magically done within a week. Sometimes even a day.
That tells me something:
The biggest thing standing in my way is usually ME.
And when I get out of my own way, I can accomplish things I’ve been avoiding for a lifetime in the snap of a finger. The Power of Accountability + Consistency = Rocket Fuel for Success Accountability is the secret weapon. Pair it with consistency, and you have life success rocket fuel.
Small commitments, made with a solid accountability partner—someone who will actually show up, hold me responsible, and be direct with me. Not necessarily tough love (unless that’s your thing), but real love and honesty. If there’s something you want to get better at, for me, this is always the answer.
The Proof Is in My Life
Accountability has helped me:
✅ Stay sober.
✅ Stay married and be a better husband.
✅ Be a better father.
✅ Become a better singer and songwriter.
✅ Be a better worker among workers.
✅ Manage restaurants successfully.
✅ Be a better friend.
✅ Earn my black belt in karate.
✅ Go from the worst cook I know to…a passable cook.
Among many other skills and achievements over time.
Anything I haven’t grown in?
You can almost always trace it back to a lack of a plan, a lack of consistency, and a lack of accountability. I used to resist accountability. I didn’t want to admit I needed help. I had to hit rock bottom before I became open and teachable. But in that sense, my darkest hour—my addiction—became my greatest asset. Now I know:
The fastest way to find the light is to stay open and teachable.
And to put the appointment on the calendar. Don’t wait for years. We offer Small Groups Online if you are ready to take the next step in freeing yourself from your addiction and getting accountability in a group setting.
Do it now.