The idea for “The Letters Project” arose from a week I spent in a “Sex Recovery Workshop” held at The Meadows Recovery Center in Wickenburg, Arizona.


The letter to the addict took about 2-3 hours to complete. It was lengthy, thoughtful, very specific, and extremely difficult to write. The reason it was difficult was because it forced me to think about the work that was at hand (which was very hard and overwhelming). The second letter was not as lengthy, but what amazed me was how quickly I finished it. I must have taken less than 5 minutes to write (VERY RAW).

The first letter was addressed to our “Sex Addict,” where we had to explain what we were willing to do to stay sober.
The second letter was a response from our sex addict to us.

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And see 2 videos communicating my letters. This will give you an idea of how you can start writing your letter, and the potential impact a letter like this can have on your recovery.
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And begin the hard work of writing your own letters. You will have space to write both. One letter is written to your sex addict and the other from your sex addict.
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To see letters from other people who have similar struggles. We can both learn and be encouraged by others’ journeys in recovery.
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For valuable tools and resources for recovery.



Take your time. This might go easily or it might take you the whole day; just know there is something beautiful that happens when you are honest with yourself and with others. When you submit your letter, we approve it and then you will be mailed a link to your letter here on the site and you can also select a reminder to mail the letters to you at a later date.

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