Wives

I saw this question posted on our site today:   Do you think porn has affected the people around you?   And all the wives shout: YES!   My husband's addiction has certainly affected me and our entire family. It has affected our marriage, our finances, and our relationships with family members and friends. And it has changed... More...

I love the first two chapters of Genesis. Who doesn't like new things, fresh starts, or new beginnings? In these two chapters God creates everything and sets it all on its course the way it should be. The way it was created to be. The way it was intended to be. That includes men and women. There is something so intimate about the creation of Eve.... More...

The question “Why Porn” has been asked on this site for the past week. It's an excellent question, really. I know that it's a question I've asked a million times. I've asked myself “why porn” during lots of sleepless nights and anxious days. I've asked my husband, I've asked my friends and support people, and I certainly... More...

Porn is a ccounterfeit.  It is a cheap substitute for the real deal yet many men (and women) fall for it time and time again.  Many women try to do the "pay back" when they catch their man cheating.  Guess what though? ...that is a counterfeit too.I was on the Internet today and found this poem.  It is quite depressing, but it... More...

Today marks the start of a new year. A new decade, in fact. When I look back over the past 10 years I can hardly recognize who I was then. Ten years ago we were staring out in our young marriage. I had no idea that my husband struggled with an addiction to pornography. I had no idea that this secret addiction would become part of our marriage and... More...

When my husband and I were in the early stages of recovery I took great comfort from hearing stories of other people who were in challenging situations and whose marriages were restored. It helped me to know that I was not alone. In those days I didn't think that the messages of the Advent season, themes of hope and peace and restoration, were for... More...

I have found for me that the key to this is forgiveness and mind renewal. Forgiveness doesn’t mean that the offense didn’t happen; it means you are choosing to release the offender from the debt owed to you. Forgiveness really isn’t for the offender as much as it is for us.  When we choose to forgive an offender; an... More...

I've said many times that in the beginning of our recovery journey I was looking for the cure. I didn't care about meetings, or accountability, or groups. All I wanted was to find the magic bullet that would end the pain, return everything to what I thought was normal, and allow me to act as if none of the awful things that my husband had done had... More...

Our family spent a day at the beach recently.  Even though we only live two hours away from the coast, we don’t get down there very often and my boys are still getting use to playing in the ocean. My nine year old was comfortable going out about waist deep in the surf, which happened to be right where the waves were... More...

Today is Thanksgiving in the States. A day for eating turkey, watching American football, and most importantly for reflecting on all that we are thankful for. I am thankful for so many things, but I am especially thankful for my husband, who has embraced the recovery journey and for the God who has seen us through it.    I remember... More...