Wives

This post is dedicated to my beautiful, tree-like husband….even if he doesn’t think he is beautiful.It seems I married a sapling….a new believer who was cut down, right and left, by anything that sought to destroy. Years one through three it was the big things, cheating of course being the biggest, but there were other things... More...

I remember what it felt like to always try to prevent my husband's next fall, slip or dive into the cycle of porn addiction.   It was a miserable way to live- constantly trying to make sure all the externals were in place to prevent the next mishap.   I didn't want to do things outside of the home if I knew that meant leaving him alone... More...

Here is a copy of a blog once again from our friends at Porn to Purity. Jeff & Marsha have an amazing heart for other couples who are faced with this struggle in their relationship. It is Darcy and my prayer that you will be able to take something from this blog away with you that will help.   Marsha and I are sharing insights from the... More...

The first time I found the porn stash, it was fall of 1997. We had just moved in to a new house, our three-year-old little boy and we. I was home alone one morning, unpacking boxes. At first, I came across some photos obviously downloaded from the Internet of a woman dressed, but barely. My body began to twitch. What is this? I thought. ... More...

I saw these stats on infidelity and thought they were interesting. Sadly, I thought that some of them looked a little low (see link below).  The section on why people have affairs really struck me. If these studies are accurate, it appears that men have affairs for physical reasons, whereas women have them for more emotional,... More...

I think this has to be one of the hardest things for the wife of an addict.  We are misunderstood from all sides.  Our husband's don't get (usually) why this causes such a deep inner sickness in the depths of our heart and our soul.   Our church (if they even are willing to get involved) wants to try every approach but how the... More...

Here's a question that I got in my email inbox recently. I thought it was a good question so I thought I would delete the personal content and repost the question and some of my answer here: I've read bits and piece of your story and am wondering how you handle hearing details of your husband's addiction. Every time he tells me things I feel... More...

This blog is from Marsha from Porn to Purity. Marsha and her husband have some very good and sound information and I am very excited to share more from them with you here. The most frequent question I am asked by wives is “Is there hope for my marriage?”  My answer is always “yes” regardless of what their particular... More...

I recently had two separate conversations with two different friends about confession and accountability. Both conversations centered around how difficult it is to establish relationships of true accountability. Finding someone that you can confess to requires that there is mutual trust, both parties are willing to be vulnerable, and that there is... More...

Q: My husband has been addicted to porn for years and is trying to walk with the Lord, but refuses to get help. I have prayed and fasted, is our next step confrontation from our pastors?A. I suspect that your husband is still addicted to pornography partly because he refuses to get help. If he is just starting to work at overcoming he must realize... More...