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Frequently Asked Questions.
Do you know where I can find a men’s Christian support group here in Michigan. ?
The Church I go to says that they doing things there to help & prevent porn addiction, but I have not found anything.
Why is it that most Churches act like this is taboo, this is the Greatest threat to the Church ever.
I have been doing really well on my own, I was prayed for to have the spiritual stronghold Cast out of me and back to the pit of Hell.
I have lost my wife, her family, our home, friends and my own family. I am believing that God Can & Will Turn Everything that was meant for evil and turn it around for good and for His Glory.
I have fallen a couple of times, and it seems that it hit’s me most when I’m feeling really down & depressed.
I could really use some Godly men that I could call when I’m feeling that way, it would be real nice if I have someone that would just give me a call from time to time and check up on me.
I do have a Holy hatred for porn and have try to start a new ministry to help other men from some of the pain that I have had to endure. If I can only help one, but hope for many Many more. I have my non profit coaching ministry, but have not got it up and running. It’s just one attack after another to keep me from Helping other’s.
It sure would be nice to have someone, other Brother’s in Christ to come alongside me to keep me in check..,
I don’t care how much we think we have this thing beat, if we are not careful it will creep right back in.
That is the Biggest thing I will have in place with Walking Free is accountability partners and groups for each other, along with accountability software.. Meantime, I am battling this thing on my own, Well me and God…. The more I’m trying to do good For Christ and others the more hell is throwing everything he can at me. { It’s been really hard }
So if you could help in any way, It would be more then appreciated.
Thank you for your ministry and all you are doing in this fight, my Prayers will be with you….
Michigan is a pretty big state with many cities so without knowing what city you are in, I’m not able to assist in that way— but you can check ClebrateRecovery.com to see if there is a group in your area and then you can ask them if there is a group specifically for men’s issues. OR you can call some of the larger churches in your area and ask if there are sexual addictions groups going. We do have X3groups going strong that you are welcome to be a part of. You would call in or use a computer to join the meetings via video chat.
You are wise to seek out accountability and a meeting. I pray you find them!
If you look at gay porn does that automatically make you gay?
Despite the worldly phrase “you are what you think”, no, I don’t think that looking at gay porn makes you gay.
I do think though that the longer you focus on anything you desire or find desirable, you will go after it.
I am currently on the road to recovery from a 11 year sexual addiction, but hitting some road blocks in my marriage sex life. Because of my overactive imagination I don’t trust my mind with any sexual thoughts which has led me to shut off my sexuality and desire for sex. This has created issues in my marriage. So, I asking for any advice on how to turn my sexuality away from sin and towards my wife?
An undisciplined thought life for so many years definitely has consequences– even when we turn from our sin, there is an abundance of aftermath and you can’t rebuke a harvest once it is standing BUT… you can one day at a time cut it down. Renew your mind by the washing of the Word of God and putting in place a new way of living (romans 12:2 and Ephesians 4:22-24) With regards to withholding sexual relations from your wife (and yourself in marriage): there are psychologists and addiction specialists who will say that a period of abstinence is necessary to slow down the momentum of the mindset of this addiction and to ‘retrain’ yourself to reconnect spiritually and with your spouse… The bible says this:
1 Corinthians 7:1-7 Concerning Married Life
7 Now for the matters you wrote about: “It is good for a man not to have sexual relations with a woman.” 2 But since sexual immorality is occurring, each man should have sexual relations with his own wife, and each woman with her own husband. 3 The husband should fulfill his marital duty to his wife, and likewise the wife to her husband. 4 The wife does not have authority over her own body but yields it to her husband. In the same way, the husband does not have authority over his own body but yields it to his wife. 5 Do not deprive each other except perhaps by mutual consent and for a time, so that you may devote yourselves to prayer. Then come together again so that Satan will not tempt you because of your lack of self-control. 6 I say this as a concession, not as a command. 7 I wish that all of you were as I am. But each of you has your own gift from God; one has this gift, another has that.
We have an abundance of resources here and I think a really good series for you both to go through is the Best Sex Life Now series. It is all about communication in and out of the bedroom and there are others who have experienced this in their marriage who share their experience and hope in bonus sessions!
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