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my question is this
my uncle was a big porn star
then he died with aids
i then got into porn and the Adult industry , stripping , web cams
and now my daughter is just coming out of the same industry
could this be a generational sin ?
i also feel guilty for setting a BAD example to my daughter
because i was the stripper first
and she followed me after i opened my big
mouth to tell her the money was good
now i am still live with this guilt
i want to make a book
tell my story about how this has effected our family in so many ways
but i am scared too
but i want to help her
so she does not end up like my uncle 🙁
please can you give me advice
I think if you a believer then you see in the Scriptures that sins can be passed down through generations. We are still responsible for our choices to choose if we will indulge in temptation or not.
You don’t need to write a book to reach your daughter. Have an open, honest conversation with her. Tell her all of your thoughts, your fears, concerns, regrets etc. And love her regardless of what direction she goes.
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Best wishes you to and upon your family!!
I am pretty sure I heard your ministry has a booth at this weeks’ AVN show in Las Vegas…. Any chance you could attempt to meet our daughter and help connect to a place in her heart that was once tender to the Lord??! The truths of Christ and His love for her have always been taught to and known by her, yet she is so far from Him (and us) right now and has since created a twisted and distorted reality as it was in her growing up years…. Any advice?? What are we as parents to do!?! We are worried sick about her and all that she is involved with currently in this ‘new world’ that she has discovered to work within in LA, and now that she is promoting further at the AEE/AVN show. We have learned that she has done several scenes with companies recently, and we have even seen photos of her that she has posted of herself on social media sites with bruises on her legs and such! How do we sit back from afar and do nothing to guard or protect our child from such abuse??
You obviously don’t know us, but she truly grew up in a very safe, loving Christian home with two parents who would move heaven and earth for her since the day she was born. She was actively involved in our church, youth group and bible studies as well as christian girls’ summer camps from 8-16 years old, and Christian counseling programs that she willingly engaged with throughout the years. She has struggled tremendously with mental health challenges tho throughout her teen years, with a wealth of counsel and support offered to her throughout all of them. Some therapists have suggested that she may have Borderline Narcissistic Personality disorder or she may be Bipolar perhaps. But regardless of any formal diagnosis, we noticed that the consistent manifestations of her acting-out and difficult behaviors often showed up with her getting involved in various sexual encounters, both on the internet and with older men she would arrange to meet, despite our best efforts to guide her otherwise. She ended up leaving our home of five younger sisters, her 2 horses, cats and dog, and the state she has always lived in, only 5 months after she turned 18. She told us she needed to “start her life over”, but its as if she began doing exactly what she had tried to do prior to turning 18 years old. She tells us to leave her alone and we shouldn’t care what she is doing for “work” because she is “happy now”, but she also has tried to tell us and others from her growing up circles here at home that she is a “model for Abercrombie” and has a ‘wonderful loving boyfriend.’ So much more to the story of course, but in desperation knowing she is currently in Vegas awaiting all that the industry has planned there this week, I thought I would just try this outlet on your website……
Please….If there is any way to spark a conversation with a young girl who works with ATMLA, please do!! We believe she turned her heart to the Lord many years ago and she was also baptized at 14 years old and served on the mission field a few summers. I don’t know what the Lord has planned for her story, or ours, as it is being written, but I know He loves her even more than we can think or imagine….. and who knows… maybe someone from your ministry can reach her even this week and guide her back to His truth, Grace, Loving mercy, and health.
Please let me know if you have any suggestions for us as pain-filled parents watching from afar, or if this is even appropriate for me to ask in the question section of your site.
Blessings and prayers from a mom and dad whose hearts are breaking for our sweet child….
I am posting your question because I know there are other parents out there just like you whose hearts are breaking and minds are full of questions on where they may have possibly gone wrong. I did edit out your daughter’s name to protect her privacy.
While it is our life purpose, passion and desire to reach out to everyone in the sex industry that we possibly can, we will not do it on behalf of a family member as that will hinder relationships and hinder a bond of trust from forming— but I can tell you this. If indeed your daughter is at the AVN show this weekend, she will encounter our team. Whether or not she is approachable or willing to enter into conversation etc. is another thing but we do have some great existing relationships there at AVN and we build new ones every year. We also in keeping with that same confidentiality would not be able to converse with you or share with you if indeed we have had conversations with your daughter unless she were to grant that permission.
You sound like you have a solid faith and understanding of God and His unbreakable love for your daughter. Keep praying and keep believing that His arm is not too short to bring her back to a place of understanding her value in God and that He has so much more for her. I sent you a pdf via email with some resources and recommendations for you. You can also find a section solely for parents and families here.
I just watched the interview with Brittni …. I am crying so much…. I love her dearly, she is a big star now. I am so alone as her father in this. The only person I can talk to is God. I don’t know what to say most times so I play it off like its no big deal. I die in fire if thought it would help her. Is there anyone I can talk too?
I’m so sorry you are hurting. I can only imagine the pain of seeing your little girl with this type of “fame”.
We have an entire section for parents & family of industry workers. You can also email [email protected] and she will send you something specifically to help you on this journey.
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