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Frequently Asked Questions.
Did you guys know theres another free software out there besides x3watch?
X3watch works great but doesn’t work on ubuntu linux.
Ubuntu is becoming a more common OS. Anyways I don’t use windows I use Ubuntu. I use ubuntu because theres no viruses. Theres this great free software that keeps track of the websites you visit. Its Called Net Responsibility.
Its www.netresponsibility.com Its for Ubuntu Linux Users.
Sorry nothing for this sytem that we are aware of.
My boyfriend of 3 years has used xwatch for about 2 years now and I am one of his accountability partners and on a recent report, it came back saying, and i quote,
“08/10/2010, 01:36 PM, User has knowingly closed the application.
08/19/2010, 08:16 PM, User has knowingly closed the application.”
He swears that he didn’t do anything and I’m just wondering if that is possible.
It is but, not very likly to happen twice in one report. I would tend to think that he may have shut it off at some point.
I am 25 i been fight with porn for a long time time and it is very hard to avode it. it at a point that i dont have to see ppl have sex just them takeing there clothing off or danceing . i love my wife and she know that i am fight with this and it almost end my marriage twice and i want to find help but feel uncomferble about talking to some one about it so if u can help me with this and i want to get back on the right trace with god thank you for your time.
From here you need to talk to someone about this and get accountability with your struggles. Sit down and develop a plan to cut this sin right at the knees. Place accountability software on your computer, mobile phone, and/or your mobile devices. We suggest X3 Watch for accountability software which you can download for free at www.x3watch.com. You should also place a filter on your computer as well. This would be like having an alarm on your house and then locking the door with both of these on your computer. When you do get a filter you should have your accountability partner set the password so that you can not just change it when you want to look at porn.
You have to remove this from your life completely. Get rid of any movies, pictures, files, or any item with adult content. Destroy it and be done with it but, when you destroy it do it in a way that will not allow for this to get into someone else’s hands. If the filters and accountability software will not work then you may have to take drastic measures and remove your computer, get an older phone without Internet, or remove the Internet from your computer. It all
comes down to completely removing it and the temptation from your life.
All too often we work on our habits of viewing porn instead of the reasons why we view porn. You need to get down to the root issues of why you go back to it and keep doing so. This may take some time and effort to discover this. But through talking with people about this or your accountability partner you will begin to see areas of your life, your past, and items that trigger your porn use. I strongly recommend counseling for this as they can really get there a lot faster than we can by providing great tools to deal with the items that arise.
Everyone is different but, a few things that I have found that worked in my recovery and from other I want to share with you.
Dive into the word daily. Spend time with God and find out what you have been missing and He will show you things you may nit have before.
Track your day and see when you’re most prone to look at porn. From here developed a daily plan to counter attack these temptations based on your observation of your own patterns.
Discover your triggers. When you look back and think of when you were most venerable, what was going on at the time? Were you stressed out, tires, bored, angry, or lonely? These are some of the key triggers for people and you need to locate them and be aware of it. When you notice your trigger topic happening you then need to react and move away from it. It may take sometime to notice and be aware of it but, this is very important.
Share with others: this can also be tough to do but, it will help you grow and heal faster. Also we know how lonely this feels to be trapped like this to porn. We also know that when others see that there is someone else who has been through it or going through it they are more willing to seek help or talk about it. You never know this could be a start to a small group of people who meet and hold each other accountable.
Please know that you are not alone in this and that you can work through this. Yes; it will not be easy but it can be done. We are here for you and praying for you.
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