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masturbation

“l have been a christian since 14 and now lm 21, and still battle the liking to masturbate to males online,l use to scout to find males to give them oral sex but every time it suppose to happen God always stop them all but now l want a change and steps to remove this spirit of these lust just tell me everything to do to overcome this sin.”

From here you need to talk to someone about this and get accountability with your struggles. Sit down and develop a plan to cut this sin right at the knees. Place accountability software on your computer, mobile phone, and/or your mobile devices. We suggest X3 Watch for accountability software which you can download for free at www.x3watch.com. You should also place a filter on your computer as well. We suggest www.safeeyes.com. This would be like having an alarm on your house and then locking the door with both of these on your computer. When you do get a filter you should have your accountability partner set the password so that you can not just change it when you want to look at porn.
Another way to get good accountability and a safe place to do it is with an X3 Groups Online group. You can find out more about it at www.X3groups.com It is a great program.
You have to remove this from your life completely. Get rid of any movies, pictures, files, or any item with adult content. Destroy it and be done with it but, when you destroy it do it in a way that will not allow for this to get into someone else’s hands. If the filters and accountability software will not work then you may have to take drastic measures and remove your computer, get an older phone without Internet, or remove the Internet from your computer. It all comes down to completely removing it and the temptation from your life.
All too often we work on our habits of viewing porn instead of the reasons why we view porn. You need to get down to the root issues of why you go back to it and keep doing so. This may take some time and effort to discover this. But through talking with people about this or your accountability partner you will begin to see areas of your life, your past, and items that trigger your porn use. I strongly recommend counseling for this as they can really get there a lot faster than we can by providing great tools to deal with the items that arise.
Everyone is different but, a few things that I have found that worked in my recovery and from other I want to share with you.
Dive into the word daily. Spend time with God and find out what you have been missing and He will show you things you may not have before.
Track your day and see when you’re most prone to look at porn. From here developed a daily plan to counter attack these temptations based on your observation of your own patterns.
Discover your triggers. When you look back and think of when you were most venerable, what was going on at the time? Were you stressed out, tires, bored, angry, or lonely? These are some of the key triggers for people and you need to locate them and be aware of it. When you notice your trigger topic happening you then need to react and move away from it. It may take sometime to notice and be aware of it but, this is very important.
Share with others: this can also be tough to do but, it will help you grow and heal faster. Also we know how lonely this feels to be trapped like this to porn. We also know that when others see that there is someone else who has been through it or going through it they are more willing to seek help or talk about it. You never know this could be a start to a small group of people who meet and hold each other accountable.
Please know that you are not alone in this and that you can work through this. Yes; it will not be easy but it can be done. We are here for you and praying for you.

lust, imagination, masterbation

Hi Everyone, Thank you so much for the service you guys are doing to infiltrate this dark area in our lives and reclaim it for the Kingdom. Jesus said if you look at a woman with lust you’ve already committed adultery, what about day dreaming about a completely made up or imaginary woman? -tin

Your thoughts are also leading you into a state of lust. This is someone that is mot your wife, even if she is made up. Porn is the same way as well. the things porn tells you is fact and not real either.

You need to work on clearing your mind of lustfull unpure thoughts.

Sex inside of marriage

I know that God designed sex for inside of marriage. But I’m completely stuck on what the bible deems as healthy when you are married. What is sexually acceptable? Is it ok to have other types of sex, other than intercourse once inside of marriage e.g. Anal, oral Any thoughts on this would be most appreciated

We get this question from time to time. Sex within your marriage is a gift just as you have said and it is ment for you to share with one another how you like.

As long as you and your wife agree with what you are doing and it is understood that it is completly OK with one another go for it. As long as it is between the two of you.

Big thing here is that BOTH of you are Ok with what you are doing. Once it gets to a point where one does not want it and the other guilts or forces it upon the other it is wrong.

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