Questions

Frequently Asked Questions.

Married to a man that looks at Porn

As a wife what is the best way to support my husband? I feel kind of alone and not sure how to approach this. I do not want to “pressure” him to get help. Thank You

Sexual Addiction

Six years ago I brought a fantasy into my wife and I bedroom. It involved another man. Over the years we have had arguments about the fantasy and how it made her feel, not enough for me. It would go away for a while but always returned. Yes I have been addicted to porn for years with the same results, goes away for a while and then returns. I have created a huge wound in my wife and she has reached out to an online friend over the past several months. I am currently seeking out counseling and creating accountability partners as I know my role in this. We are still together and talk every day, she does not feel safe with me because of the past and she said this guy is providing her with the emotional support she needs right now. I also no there has been online sexual encounter which we have discussed. I want to heal and she knows that but is untrusting as I have said those same words in the past. Struggling for support right now.

John

You are doing the right thing by going to get counselling. I would also encourage that the both of you do this and also as individuals. There seems to be a lot of stuff she needs to deal with as well.

Please know that you are not alone in this and that we are praying for you.

Oral sex

Hello. I want to know what the bible says about oral sex. At times I feel it is ok with my wife but always been doable minded. I don’t feel its bad b ut my wife will do it when she feels like it and than stop since she not sure. Is it wrong to do this since love my wife and want to please each other.

For you to use oral sex as a way of showing affection for one anothr during sex is not a bad thing. God wants you to enjoy sex as a married couple as long as it is brining youtogether as one.

When it is not OK is if the other person does not want to do it or is feeling forced to do it. It should be something that each other wnats to do or have done to them. This is not a sin.