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Frequently Asked Questions.
I am a 14 years old guy and i have problems with my sexual identity,porn and masterbation. And i havent got anybody to talk about this.Should i talk about this with myfriends?How can I start it?Is there any guy who could stop with masterbating?And how can I escape from these things?(you know masterbation ect.) Thanks for help! I would be realy thankful if you dont display my question in the question wall.
I would recommend that you spend some time in the students section of our website. You will find blogs and many resources that can help guide you to the next steps. Accountability is super important and we highly recommend that you get honest with someone in your life that is trustworthy and can really truly hold you accountable.
I am a 18 year old guy who has been involved with porn since I was 11. I keep wanting to quit and I go really good for a few weeks then I just go back to it. I feel like I have tried everything I possibly could to stop but nothing has worked! Any ideas? Porn has controlled my life for as far back as I can remember. I really need to stop!
There is so much information on our site that can help guide you to the proper steps to take. Obviously this is a heart issue and if you are struggling and are convicted that it is sinful and holding you back then it is important for you to get serious and begin by cutting off all stumbling blocks, Its human nature to make excuses but if you are serious you will do whatever it takes which can mean giving up a smart phone- cutting off cable television moving the computer to a public area of the home- having real life accountability etc. External changes are not going to automatically deal with the heart issue but it is a start in order to stop being distracted and pulled in a direction you don’t want to go so you can begin to focus on repentance and your journey on getting right with God.
Best wishes to you!
I was sober for 18 months and have been attending a recovery group for 2 years now. I lost my sobriety and had several slip-ups in the past 3 months and told my recovery group every week, but I did not tell my wife until last week. She was very mad at me for not telling her, even though I was honest with my group. I have heard the phrase, ‘your wife should not be your accountability partner,’ but what does that mean? Should I still tell my wife every time I slip up like I tell my group? That sounds a lot like she’s an accountability partner. Thank you for any advice you can offer.
Wives can most definitely feel miffed when others know before them that their marriage bed, has been compromised– your intimacy and one-ness. I believe this is a personal discussion and conclusion that only you and your wife can decide. While it is true the reason many do not believe wives make good accountability partners for husband’s struggling with porn or sex addiction is because they are biased (rightfully so) and directly affected by what they would be trying to hold their husband accountable to— it can just get messy.
However, I do believe that the bible is clear that in marriage, husband and wife become ONE. Your spouse comes before any other person (after God of course) and that includes a recovery group or accountability person. So if you know that your wife wants to be informed when/ if you turn to porn or other women then rightfully give her that.
That’s my take on it anyway. God’s best to you both.
MT
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