Questions

I am a teen girl who loves God, works hard in school & has Godly friends. But when nobody’s around, masturbation is there, proving I’m not as Godly as I want to be. If anyone could be somehow sheltered from lust, it should be me, right? My parents are on fire for God and also open with me about sex being God’s idea, but yet here I am, almost out of highschool fighting a battle I’ve fought since about 11 or 12 years of age. I used to think I could control it, keep as a “innocent” thing between me and my body because I’d never look at porn or fantasize…. But once I began to really be attracted to guys masturbation was something I did far more often, as a way to “supress lust”, gradually becoming worse. When fantasizing wasn’t enough, there I was. Looking at nude men on my phone. The very thing I said I’d never do! Well, unfortunately it took me realizing that these sites included gay men, not the masculine, Godly man I want to marry to back off. I thought I had things controlled, but then I started to be really attracted to a guy in my youth group I’ve known for years. All of the sudden, I started thinking about him in ways I shouldn’t, causing me to become less of a friend to him out of fear that I’d corrupt him with lust. Only recently, I have been waking up with nightmares that I had gone and had premarital sex or even gotten pregnant. I love Jesus with all my heart and I want to have a good relationship with Him, one that doesn’t have masturbation interfering. How can I get to that place?

I am working on a project for my Religious studies capstone class. One of the project options was ‘fight pornography.’ God has delivered me from this sin 2503 days and counting. I don’t want to ever fall back into this sin. I had some convicting thoughts about not helping others that are dealing with porn. I guess I have sheltered myself away from those who deal with this issue from fear that I might fall back into it. I realize now, that God delivered me from it to help others who are drowning. I am not sure where to start. Do you have any suggestions for me to how I might be able to impact my community? How can I help those who are fighting to get out of their bondage to pornography?

Hello, thought it was a safe place to come here & ask. I have been seeing a guy for a couple of months. I can see he struggles with lust. He comes from a different cultural background to me (I’m Australian) He’s admitted that in his past, in his home country numerous partners at one time was accepted. He talks about watching lots of “movies “which are ‘nice & relaxing.’ When I ask which ones he can never give me a specific.name. I try to have boundaries physically as I am waiting till after marriage to fully enjoy sexual experiences. He continues to joke, flirt, touch and try push my limit. He’s even commented “What’s your angry face?” Or makes comments about other ‘beautiful women’. I have family who have struggled with porn addiction and I am afraid this guy does too. I am really scared that I can’t trust him. How do I confront this fear, and or discuss my concerns with him? I understand sexual addictions have a very strong hold & I feel like I’m in over my head. He does not even admit to a problem but comments his ‘heart is black’ in some areas. We are both Christians & God is teaching me stacks about grace, forgiveness and trust.. What support is there or resources for partners of men who struggle with this? Any advice on how to start talking about it & or when to get out of the relationship before it get’s too ugly? I am ready to run at any point!