Questions

Frequently Asked Questions.

Couples

My fiance is struggling with pornography. He has made wonderful progress (praise the Lord). However, about every month he struggles for a few days, many times giving in. How can I help him? So far I have prayed (though not as much as I should) and always allowed him to be honest. When he tells me about it, I do not get angry, yes, I may cry, but I always forgive. I do not hold it against him. Are there any ways I can help him not look? Or when can I know he will be struggling so I can be prepared?

Amanda,

What is going on in his life at the time that he looks? Is there a trigger that may be causing this to happen? If he is looking online place a filter on the computer and an accountability software as well.

Praying for him is good and the fact that you are supportive is good as well. How ever you are still allowing this to take place by not putting up safe gaurds. to protect him from his temptation.

Also let him know how it makes you feel and be honest with him. Do not leave anything off the table by holding back how it makes you feel.

I would also suggest that he looks into getting accountability as well with another friend or pastor.

filtering

I read in your article to parents about Free Porn that Bing and other sites can be used to view Porn. It didn’t say how we can tell if it is being used to view porn. Could you tell me how a parent would know and also how to prevent it without keeping the teen from not beeing able to view any other things on those sites that are appropriate?

DeeDee,

I would recommend that you put a filter on your computer(s) and an accountability software to keep things like this away from your children.

We reccomend using Safe Eyes for a filter which you can find out more about at www.safeeyes.com. Then I would like to point you to our accountability software called X3 Watch which you can find at www.x3watch.com

Having Safe Eyes and X3 Watch on your computer at the same time is just like setting your house alarm system before you leave and then locking the doors on your way out. This is just a better safeguard for your family.

filtering/monitering Facebook IM

Does SafeEyes also monitor IM that goes on while on Facebook or other social sites? and if so how does it work? Can the IM be turned on and off (like during homework hours)?

DeeDee,

Safe Eyes is a filter program that we recommend here at X3 Church. It is not our software so any information for Safe Eyes will need to be found at www.safeeyes.com

Thank you

Brian