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I have a Facebook page that I use to contact friends and family and want to keep but it seems even Facebook has very inappropriate pages. How ca block these pages that contain images of half naked pictures of women that is easily accessible? Does X3 work also on Facebook?
You can’t pick and choose what you want to see on FB unfortunately. However if FB is a stumbling block for you then perhaps get rid of FB or blacklist it with X3watch. If you do that, write out a list of those friends and family members you stay connected with thru FB and make it a point to call them once in awhile instead. It’s much more meaningful anyway. 😉
I’ve lived with a host family that I met at an after school program for almost 3 years now. There is one boy(16) and me plus the mother(upper 40s) and father( mid 50s). During the last 2 years the mother and father enrolled to become foster parents. During the 2 years following we’ve had a total of 5 boys come through our home. 2 of them were long term. One was 7 when he first came the other was 12. There are many other factors that add depth to this scenario but these are the most important. The mother and the father are in a good marriage and their son has become a brother to me over the years but the mother and father do have much deeper issues. My direct issue is that I’ve noticed disturbing Internet history on the fathers iPad. Nothing seen directly but I did see a long list of bookmarks and history. The subject matter appeared to be young preteen male pornography. I’ve also walked in the house with a friend of mine and saw the father viewing a video of a young boy masturbating, but he had switched the screen quickly. What do I do with what I’ve seen. For all I know at this point it’s only circumstantial. There’s no hard evidence that it was child pornography being viewed. I want to do something quickly. This family is important to me. Their son is my adopted brother so to speak. We are very close. I don’t want to destroy a marriage or ruin a relationship. But I also think it’s important that no more foster kids come through the house. This whole thing has me spooked. I was referred to you guys to seek help on what to do going forward. I struggle with pornography addictions myself so I understand the darkness I’m dealing with but this could be much worse if underage boys are involved. Thanks for the help. I hope to hear back very soon.
If you are suspecting child pornography but you are not 100% positive then I would suggest going to both the husband and wife together. YOU are not splitting up a marriage and if the marriage doesn’t survive, he is the one to blame, not you. But to ignore something so dangerous is irresponsible in my opinion. If you are 100% positive that child porn is involved you need to report it to the authorities and you can do that anonymously.
If you tell them both together it will then be their responsibility to deal with it. The husband needs the accountability that the wife can bring and suggest. This is not something that should be ignored and I know you don’t want to break the closeness you all have but sometimes doing what is right is not easy. Do the right thing.
I’ve been struggling with porn for a while now and I want nothing more than to quit. Yet, despite having an accountability partner, the x3watch on my phone and my social media apps off my phone, I still manage to fall short of Gods standard. Everything around me right now feels like it’s just falling apart from my family to my body to school and I just am getting so sick of it. It’s not that I’m disheartened or giving up on God, I’m just angry. I’m angry at myself for not being able to shake this demon off my back. I want freedom and I want to be closer to God. I want to experience a peace that I’ve yet to experience. I don’t want the same answer of getting more porn blockers or more accountability. I know the scriptures, I just want to know why my heart won’t change. I can’t block every temptation in my life, but I just want to know why my heart is still corrupted by lust when I just want to be free from this horrible sin. Please help me
My heart breaks when I read some of these because I hear it in your written words and yet, the flesh remains… flesh. The bible tell us that there will always be a war between our flesh and the Spirit (Gal 5:17). It also tells us that we are enticed by our own desires (James 1:14) I don’t say these things to make you feel defeated but to rather let you know that you are not a failure– living in this world with all of the external visual stimulation everywhere we turn is overwhelming!! And you are right— you cannot change every external and walk around in a steel suit with blindfolds on. Just keep pressing into the Lord, keep your accountability in place. Make sure that you’re not setting yourself up for a fall by keeping the things luring you away in your immediate sphere of influence. It’s one thing to not be able to control what goes on in the world but you can control what you allow in your home and in your immediate space.
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