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Hi, I’m Jimmy Elliott. I’m actually a founder of an organization called Holding of Wrist (www.holdingofwrist.com), but I needed some advice from someone else.
I’m in a long distance controlling relationship with someone who is five years older than me. If I don’t tweet him back, or reply to his (yes, I am bisexual and he’s gay) e-mails within 5-10 minutes I get several more tweets or e-mails asking “What Did I Do Wrong?” “Are you okay”. He also ask that I send nude photos to him, that’s not my lifestyle and I’m uncomfortable with that.
If I don’t send a photo he gets depressed, and angry at me. The problem is that he has been suicidal before and he says that without me, his life would be over, and pointless. I want to break up with him but I’m afraid that he’ll commit suicide.
Please reply back when time allows you (I know how busy running an organization can be).
Thanks
You need to tell him that it is not your style and tell him that you can be friends but, that is it. If he threatens than you need to call someone local in his area to help. This is not healthy for either of you.
First off thank You/Ya’ll for a wonderful site dedicated to God and helping others out. Well I’m Clenon, pronunciation of my name is a little difficult to say, it’s like “linen” but with a C in front of linen, anyway I’m addicted to porn. I was saved in 2006 when I was 16, short after I was saved, I began to read the bible out of curiosity, particularly the book of Proverbs, it was interesting to me. I started to grow in wisdom, and started to love others genuinely, I was getting closer to God. I was getting closer to finding out who I was in Christ, beginning to find out what my purpose was in life. I had a passion to live for Jesus Christ, and I quit smoking weed, quit the alcohol, quit cussing, quit hanging out with the wrong crowd, and all that, but never could find a way to absolutely quit porn. I could write 5 pages worth of some real stuff on here, but i’m not. Basically what i’m asking is, is can someone, anyone, it doesn’t matter who, but can someone please help me and show me step by step how to overcome porn addiction, I really believe I can be somebody in this world, but nothings happening with out God in the picture. Thank you/ya’ll…
Clenon Mitchell III
The first step is to get an accountability partner and maybe use X3 Watch. Have that set up and make sure that your accountability partner will confront you. I think that the methods that you used to quit all of the other stuff would be great to use as well. One day at a time, try to see if you have a trigger that makes you want to look at porn. There are many other ways that might work it is really up to you.
I have a colleage at work who is addicted to porn and sex and is going through a nasty divorce, much of it due to his behavior. He has had tardiness issues at work for quite some time and has been disciplined on multiple occassions. I m wondering what the best way to try to deal with is in terms of an “intervention”. He is a closed, stubborn individual. I have talked to our supervisor about my concerns and others that we work with. How should this be approached and what things should we discuss? Any advise would be great.
Thanks,
Rick
Rick,
That is a tough question to handle. Are you close enough to have a sit down talk with him? If he is closed and stubborn like you say it might not get into his head that he needs to change. It might be good just to sit down with him and not point fingers but just talk. Sometimes when people don’t want to hear something they are not going to no matter how hard you try. Maybe just start out by being a good friend and offer help to him.
I don’t think that it will be easy and just try to understand how he is feeling. I would also say don’t take anything that he says to heart. He might be hurtful to make you go away.
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