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Frequently Asked Questions.
im already a christian i thought i will be healed from being a homosexual man when i accepted Jesus Christ wholeheartedly as my Lord & Savior, but why does this sin is still lurk in me and i still have attraction to men and worst having lust to them? is it possible or is there a miracle that a homosexual man will be healed and become a heterosexual man? please help..
Struggling in your mind/heart is not sin. Acting out upon that struggle, that temptation to something you know is sinful is sin. The bible is clear that we will always be enticed by our own desires (James 1:14) and that we will always battle with our flesh. (Galatians 5:17). Romans 7 talks a lot about sin living in us but then gives us the HOPE in Christ that helps us to overcome.
You are not alone and what you are struggling with is not isolated– The bible tells us that the things we struggle with are not uncommon! (1 Corinthians 10:14)
You may want to consider joining a support group in your area or one of our X3groups.
HI, I just joined an X3groups and starting tomorrow. Also just signed up for the 30 day video workshop. Now I am feeling very down, and strongly tempted to act out. One problem is loss of belief that yet again another program; fear of it not working, and then I really won’t have any more hope.
Please pray for me. I have been wrestling with this for 37 years since 5th grade when a boy taught me how to masturbate. Then a girl gave me a candy bar and tried to touch me.
I am married to a beautiful woman, and I have a delightful little daughter. I have a successful career, and am the head deacon in my church.
The Lord has been good and gracious to me.
I have actively bounced in and out of sexual addiction recovery groups, Christian and secular, and have even co-lead one for the men in my church.
Then one day one of the guys in our group violated the confidentiality of our relationships by gossiping to others about our identities !
So, since 2010 I have stopped being in men or any fellowship groups due to lack of trust.
The longest I have been sexually sober (no masturbation, no porn and no contact with prostitutes, massage parlors, is 8 months in 2008).
That was done with seemingly the weekly accountability meetings.
My addiction has become accelerated and rampant due to the availability of tablets, smartphones, etc. What worked 7 years ago with my wife password protecting all the computers, and using software to block sites, no longer seem enough. I am hoping to counteract addiction by using the IPad, internet to access my fellow Christians in recovery. I think it’s fantastic that X3pure.com is designed as it is. Sort of remedies eye brain reflexes to this medium. I love the name XXX redefined so that it means something different. Jesus embraced the woman caught in the act of adultery and I too wish to embrace the person’s and not the sin.
We hope that you have found the group to be a place of safety and a place where you can be transparent. We understand your shame, your lifelong struggle and your fears of failure. Instead of being full of despair just remember the basics…. one day at a time (tomorrow has worries of it’s own–Matthew 6:34) Often times it is a lot easier for us to believe GOD for others than it is ourselves but the truth of the matter He is FOR YOU and will give you the strength to press through when you struggle and He will give you the power to overcome what “feels” impossible. You can’t always trust your feelings but you can always trust your God.
We’re praying for you!
Do you have any groups to connect with pertaining to Extra-Marital affairs? I confessed to my wife that I cheated on her with another man… This is influenced by past sexual situations that happened during middle school and have influenced this sexual deviancy within myself… I am seeing a counselor and working to restore my marriage but I was also hoping for other support groups.
While we do not have a group specifically for those who have had extramarital affairs, the X3groups do have members in groups that have had them. You may want to consider joining one of the groups to see if it is a good fit for you. I do think you will find the encouragement, accountability and support that these groups offer helpful.
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