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During the years that I have been addicted to porn, my view of women has been twisted and warped. After 6 years of being a slave to porn, I am ready to make a stand at the age of 18. I feel that this website, along with the workshop, is a good first step. However, in his love, sex, and dating series, Andy Stanley suggested that it might be a good idea for some people to take a year off from dating. He said that I can use this year as a time to “renew my mind to think differently” and “make up my mind to behave differently.” I feel that dating, might be a distraction while I try to tear free from this burden, and taking a year off from it to focus on reconstructing the way I think might be a good option. However, this is a big decision. I am currently praying for guidance on this matter. My question to you is: What are your thoughts? Do you think this could be a good choice for me while I take this journey?
Yes! As simple as that: YES!
A friend at church gave me your web address and said there is a way to type in an accountability partner’s e-mail so that if I were to go to any questionable sights that person would be sent an e-mail indicating so. How would I set that up?
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My girlfriend and I have been dating for about a year and a half, and she recently confessed to me that she has been struggling with masturbation since she was young. I want to help her break free, but I’m not sure how I should go about doing it. Usually I’d seek guidance from a few strong, close Christians in my life, but I want to keep this issue confidential for her sake. Masturbation/pornography used to be a big struggle in my life, but by God’s grace it has not been an issue for a couple years. We have remained pure in our relationship, and I encouraged her to share her struggle with a woman in her life, to which she agreed. I really care for this girl and have indefinite plans to propose in the next couple months. Is there something I can be doing to help her? Resources (from a Christian perspective) are so hard to find for my relatively unique situation. Thanks so much in advance.
I think the advice that you have already given her to share her struggles with other women in her life is the best suggestion.
Due to the closeness of your relationship, your own previous struggles and just normal temptation that couples in a dating or courting relationship face, I would advise that this (her struggle with masturbation) not be something you try to hold her accountable to. I would however say it is OK to hold her accountable to finding a good female accountability partner to discuss all of it in depth with.
Best wishes to you both!
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