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Frequently Asked Questions.
I’m going to be, I am addicted to porn and realizing that I have been for years I wanted anything to get better so I came to 3Xchurch. But I have heard you need accountability and even here I hear that it is key. My question is, why is it necessary and how does it help? I have been open with my accountability partner but I feel like it doesn’t help with anything. Am I doing something wrong?
Accountability is a key element to breaking free if you respect it and use it properly AND if you are putting into place the things you need to set yourself up for a win. Accountabily will only work to the extent that you use it. If you are using accountability only to confess, it rarely works.
You may want to check out Craig’s book OPEN which goes into great detail the imortance of accountability and how it works. You might find the X3groups to be a great community for you that includes accountability combined with teaching and encouragement.
My wife and I have been married almost 30 years. We had a good sex life until about a year ago. She is going through extreme issues with her back, and is unable to do most physical activities, let alone have sex. It has probably been a year since we have been intimate. I love her and care for her. If you have a wife with a serious illness, how do you handle the urges that we still have as men? Is it wrong to get release through masterbation?
Well let me ask you this: What does your wife think about it? It is your marriage bed- can she help you achieve that even if she is unable to have intercourse because of her back?
Our stance on masturbation is that it is a selfish act one that doesn’t produce oneness in marriage but ultimately you need to come to the answer for yourself through your own interpretation of the Word if you are a believer and also with an open conversation about it with your wife. If this is something you have to hide from her then I think you have your answer.
Its a tough situation to be in for sure so I don’t want you to think I am minimizing that at all. I wish you the best and admire your desire to do the right thing and to know what that is in this situation.
How can I test your system on my phone and CPU to make sure that my accountability partner is going to get a notice if I were to mess up?
Hello Emmitt,
You need to contact support at X3watch.com by visiting their site and clicking on the support tab in the upper right.
I am not trained in software here on the ministry side of XXXchurch. X3watch.com is set up with the right people for that.
Thank you
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