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My girlfriend has just told me that she is a born again virgin, while I had previously assumed she was a virgin since birth. I don’t judge that and I don’t want to. But, my mind has been going crazy and I keep feeling bothered by the idea. How am I supposed to deal with it? I am a virgin, and have been saving myself. It feels like my sacrifice was somewhat for no reason? I want those feelings gone. How? What should I do, and/or pray? Please help.
We are told that God makes all things new. We have all fallen short of the glory of God and all of us have gone astray. For some reason this particular area is more troubling to you but what stands out the most to me was when you stated that your “sacrifice” feels as if it is was for ‘no reason’.
You didn’t make that decision for your girlfriend (I hope). You made it for yourself as unto God. If something someone else has done makes your walk or vows less valuable I think that is what you should begin to pray about because that is a bigger issue. Give yourself some time too. This was just dropped on you and so it’s a little shocking. Thankfully your girlfriend made a commitment to wait and has asked God to cleanse her and make her new. You can’t take that away from her. (I know you’re not trying to- I’m just trying to make a point)
I think your decision to remain a virgin is admirable not to mention simply awesome- don’t ever think that isn’t worth something.
I am writing a paper on fornication and trying to give a Biblical answer to masturbation. Porn, and sex outside of marriage are simpler to argue against but masturbation to me seems harder. So I would like help in forming a Biblical reply and found god scriptural basis. Thanks and God Bless
We have covered this subject so many times at XXXchurch.com you may want to read through the archives of blogs in both men and students.
Pure life ministries also has a great article on masturbation if you want to check them out: www.PureLifeMinistries.org
I have been dating this girl for almost 2 years. She knows about my addiction and had been very supportive. She is the reason I want to beat porn! I intend to marry her, and already have the ring. I want to wait till I have a good start on getting past my addiction. I have done things in the past that i am not proud of, and I honestly wish i could forget. Nothing illegal or immoral just not proud of them. She knows about my internet usage history, but not my physical history. (one night stands and such) I want to be honest with her, but don’t want to hurt her or risk scaring her away. How much should I tell her? or should I just say the past is the past and start fresh with no history for her to think about or worry over? (BTW she is a worrier over EVERYTHING)
I think pre-marital counseling should address this. Perhaps talk with whoever is doing the pre-marital counseling for you in private about it first and get their take on how to bring it up. I personally believe laying everything out is important BEFORE marriage. I don’t think you need to get into specific details about each encounter but I don’t think it is fair or right to withhold the information that you have been sexually active before.
You are certainly not alone.
Best wishes
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