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Frequently Asked Questions.
I have been addicted to porn for over 6 years. Sience last June I have been desperately trying to quit sometimes I make it a week sometimes just a cupple days, recently I Made it over a month from December 14- January 17 or so. I think my problum is I drift away from god for just a cupple days I don’t read the bible or pray and next thing I know I’m looking at something that I shouldn’t be looking at. Will I really have to open my bible everyday for the rest of my life to beat this habit? I feel strong when I read everynight. But that’s hard for me to do. Music also helps me lecrae, and the whole 116 crew.
God tells us that we need our ‘daily bread’ (His word) so yes- if He is saying we need a dose of it daily then I take Him at His Word.
However- it is not about all that you can do right- it is about what God has already done so that you can live a life right- a life full of abundance and blessing. Focus more on a relationship with Him rather than a set of do’s and don’ts and you will be much better off.
God wants to get closer to you. Draw near to Him and He WILL draw near to you.
Best wishes!
I’m a christian. I’ve a wonderful girlfriend. We’re waiting with sex until marriage. I’ve been a porn addict. I’ve cut the porn. We’re on a long distance relationship. However, that’s not the main problem. I’m in love with my girlfriend. She’s attractive, but however I can’t stop focusing on the looks. She’s not the best looking in my opinion, which makes me thinking that I could get a better looking girlfriend. I’m totally in love with her personality, but sometimes I can’t focus on anything other than her appearence. Why doesn’t she want to work out so she get hotter, why can’t she eat less are questions I keep asking myself. I feel bad about this, and I really need help. The media focuses on this, and the ideal woman is presented there. I hate that I can’t find my girlfriend more attractive. There’s a good book named “Every mans battle” by Stephen Arterburn which focuses on this topic, but it doesn’t help. It’s funny cause the women ideal is changing every decade. It goes from skinny to bigger and to normal and so on, which means, it can’t be hard for me either to change my view on how my girlfriend looks. I hope you’ve some great advice for me, as I really need help. I don’t want to leave this relationship. I’m in love, but have a hard time not focusing on her appearence. I’m myself very aware of my own appearance, I work out 5 times a week, so it’s not that weird I also focus on her appearance. Thanks!
you nailed it yourself. The media has set up a trap and you’ve stepped in it. Also being a porn viewer is a good way to set yourself up to be superficial with how your woman should look or behave.
Respectfully, what you have written is wonderful in your ability to be honest so I want to give you kudos for that and I want to be gentle in how I respond. This is so superficial and if you are only focused on looks and outside appearances then eventually you’re going to be alone or with someone that has what you’re “looking” for but won’t possess all the wonderful things that your girlfriend possess.
You may want to check out Pure Life Ministries- they have some great articles and they do talk about this.
Best wishes
So I have been dealing with porn and masturbation. I was caught by my wife on Saturday and well things blew up. She does not know how I could do this to our marriage. I am getting help to quit, including this site, but I need to know how to fix what I broke, my wife trust and heart. Any thoughts at what I can do?
It is going to take time to rebuild and earn trust, reliability and dependability. I heard someone once say you can spend years making deposits into savings and it only takes one withdrawl to break the bank. You’re human so you’re not perfect but walking with God- staying accountable (truly accountable) to another Godly man with a strong walk and continuing to serve your wife (and family) is a great start at rebuilding.
Best wishes
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