Questions

Frequently Asked Questions.

Homosexuality

I’m 22. I’ve been raised in the church. I just graduated from a Christian university. I’m gay. I adore pop culture, and thus I’m bombarded with messages from all camps about my life. The Christians are telling me to not be gay anymore and the gays are telling me to not be Christian anymore. My faith in God is pretty solid. I’ve never doubted His existence, even if we haven’t seen eye-to-eye on some things. As I’ve always been raised in the church (A/G denomination) I’ve always been told it was wrong and I’ve never really questioned it. My question is this: I’m ready to start a life. I’ve done counseling and whatnot for being gay, as well as prayed, etc… I’m still gay. I want to start a life with someone and I don’t know what to do. How come people justify being gay as wrong with verses in Leviticus, but don’t count other ones about tattoos and whatnot? Is it wrong for me to be in a monogamous gay relationship with someone who is also a Christian; with the inverse being that I struggle with lust the rest of my life? (I’m not called to celibacy. :p ) I guess, I really just want advice from someone who’s been where I am. :S Thank you for your time! -Samuel

Samuel,

I am sorry but, currently we do not have anyone here who has been where you are at. But, I would like to try and shed some light on this as well.

It talks about sexual relationships all through out the bible and not just in Leviticus. You will also see that when a sexual relationship is mentioned in a good and Godly way it talks about that being between a man and a women.

It bothers men when folks judge others because of their sin. The fact of the matter is that we all sin. But, we need to realize these sins and turn to God for forgiveness.

We at XXXchurch feel that homosexuality is a sin and is called that way in the bible. We also do believe that everyone should be excepted and not judge by their sins either. I am sorry that you ae having a tough time finding people around you that except where you are at right now in life. Please know that we will be praying for you and that you are not alone.

Resources

HI I live in the Uk and I want to start up in my area an accountability group and I also want to run something along the lines of your “porn and pancakes” day for men and their sons. Do you have resources that I can purchase to help me do this. Thank you.

John,

Please shoot Brian an email at [email protected]. from there we can get you the information that you need.

Addicted to porn

I have been addicted to porn and masturbation for about 8 years now. It has really ruined my relationships with people and with God. When I finally decided I needed to quit I would only be free for a few weeks at a time. Then I started dating my current girlfriend and, with seeing how bad my addiction hurt her, I was free for about 8 months. But now it has started coming back again. I try to tell myself I wont do it again and I try to move on without telling anyone but then a week or two later I slip up again. I’m getting married in a month and a half and I really want this out of my life. It has hurt my fiance, my relationship with God, and me for too long and I don’t want it hurting my marriage. What can I do to get rid of this? Any help would be appreciated. Thank you and God bless.

Micheal,

As hard as it is to talk to someone about this you need to do this. You need to bring someone in this battle with you that will not be affraid to ask you the tough questions and hold you to your desire to be free of this sin.

The next thing you need to do will be eve tougher than asking for help, that is to sit down with your fiance and talk to her about what you are going through, your desire to be free, and the plan that you have put into place to move on from this.

If for some reason you end up needing to put the wedding off for a bit that would be better than having to sit down and look at devorce papers.

Brother you are not in this alon and God wants you to walk away from this so much. He has so much more for you. Know to that we will be praying for you during this.