Questions

This is something that I have been wondering about…before I decided that I was going to get right with the Lord and straighten up I was very sexualy active. I am a 24 year old man that makes good money and is singer/songwriter. Not bragging but to be honest, it wasnt hard for me to get a girl. And now to my question, in this past life I was living, oral sex was very very important to me. The giving and recieveing, is it something that should not be practiced in a commited christian relationship? By that I mean marriage. I know that given everything that is going on, that is the last thing I should be worried about, but I am just curious. Thanks

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Hey there,

I’m simply asking for advice on an issue. I’m asking multiple people about this; friends, mentors, pastors, etc. I just really want to get a good, Godly perspective on how I should deal with my current situation.

I had my first exposure to porn when I was 11. This is apparently the average but I still feel like it was just way, way too early. I didn’t even know what I was looking at, but due to my flesh’s sinful desires, I couldn’t stop looking and exploring. I didn’t know what to do with what I was seeing until a little while later, when my neighbor told me about masturbation. This opened a world of trouble, pain, and addiction. I was caught by my parents a couple times, but because of my age I was able to play the “I was just curious” card. They acquired some software that I was able to work around once I got better with computers. I was addicted and controlled by masturbation from age 12 to 20.

In the fall of 2009, I really made an attempt to quit. My problem up until that point was not that I didn’t have the power to quit, it was simply that I didn’t want to quit. I finally hit that point in 2009 when I actually wanted to quit; and I did. Since then, I have had a few relapses. But every time, God is so faithful to convict me in the ways that I need to be convicted in order to repent and try my hardest to not fall back into it.

About 5 months ago, I started dating a beautiful, lovely girl. I’m falling in love with her more and more every second of every day and I have little to no doubt that she is the girl that I am being called to marry and pursue until the day I die. It has been about 8 months since my last “relapse” with pornography, and I’m confident that I have the strength (through God) to continue on the rest of my life without looking at that filth again.

My question is this: When should I tell my girlfriend about my past/present struggle(s) with pornography? There are a small handful of people who know–it’s not something that I openly discuss with people. I hope to get to that point and I am slowly working toward it. In no way would I ever think that I don’t have to tell my girlfriend about it.

The problem is that I know how she’ll react. She’s not naive at all and she knows that pornography is a common struggle for men, but I know that it will just break her heart. She’s so pure and I don’t know why God has chosen to bless me with her.

As aforementioned, we’ve been dating for 5 months and we first talked about our feelings for each other / starting pursuing a relationship with each other about a year ago. We’ve had serious conversations about marriage and mildly talked about sexuality and our desires, but when do you think would be a good time to talk with her about my struggle?

Thanks so much!
-christian.

PS: Sorry about the incredibly long-windedness. I just really felt compelled to give you as much context as possible.