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Honestly the trust takes time and for some more time than others. My wife had to work through all of this on her own with out any help and that process toog a lot longer.

With this situation I would strongly suggest that you two seek out counsoling not only for your past struggles with pornography but, for the marriage as well. She needs to heal from this as well.

If you attend church talk to someone there and maybe they can help you put you in touch with the right person to help you out.

From here you need to talk to someone about this and get accountability with your struggles. Sit down and develop a plan to cut this sin right at the knees. Place accountability software on your computer, mobile phone, and/or your mobile devices. We suggest X3 Watch for accountability software which you can download for free at www.x3watch.com. You should also place a filter on your computer as well. We suggest www.safeeyes.com. This would be like having an alarm on your house and then locking the door with both of these on your computer. When you do get a filter you should have your accountability partner set the password so that you can not just change it when you want to look at porn.

You have to remove this from your life completely. Get rid of any movies, pictures, files, or any item with adult content. Destroy it and be done with it but, when you destroy it do it in a way that will not allow for this to get into someone else’s hands. If the filters and accountability software will not work then you may have to take drastic measures and remove your computer, get an older phone without Internet, or remove the Internet from your computer. It all

comes down to completely removing it and the temptation from your life.

All too often we work on our habits of viewing porn instead of the reasons why we view porn. You need to get down to the root issues of why you go back to it and keep doing so. This may take some time and effort to discover this. But through talking with people about this or your accountability partner you will begin to see areas of your life, your past, and items that trigger your porn use. I strongly recommend counseling for this as they can really get there a lot faster than we can by providing great tools to deal with the items that arise.

Everyone is different but, a few things that I have found that worked in my recovery and from other I want to share with you.

Dive into the word daily. Spend time with God and find out what you have been missing and He will show you things you may nit have before.

Track your day and see when you’re most prone to look at porn. From here developed a daily plan to counter attack these temptations based on your observation of your own patterns.

Discover your triggers. When you look back and think of when you were most venerable, what was going on at the time? Were you stressed out, tires, bored, angry, or lonely? These are some of the key triggers for people and you need to locate them and be aware of it. When you notice your trigger topic happening you then need to react and move away from it. It may take sometime to notice and be aware of it but, this is very important.

Share with others: this can also be tough to do but, it will help you grow and heal faster. Also we know how lonely this feels to be trapped like this to porn. We also know that when others see that there is someone else who has been through it or going through it they are more willing to seek help or talk about it. You never know this could be a start to a small group of people who meet and hold each other accountable.

Please know that you are not alone in this and that you can work through this. Yes; it will not be easy but it can be done. We are here for you and praying for you.

I am sorry that you are getting these reports from someone who you might not know.

X3 Watch is a piece of software that people can place on their computers or personal mobile device and have reports sent to accountability partners. These reports track any site that they may have visited that contain adult content.

We do not have a database of people who have X3 Watch so there is no way for us to be able to contact them on your behalf.

My first response to you would be to think back to any conversations you may have had with anyone in regards to helping them with any struggles with sexual temptation. If you can think of anyone contact them and see if they may have signed you up not knowing this.

If you can not think of anyone the only way that you will be able to stop these emails will be for you to mark this email in you email account as junk or spam mail. This should block any more of these emails.

I hope this is of help to you. Thank You