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I come from a Christian family, but since I was a teenager (now 28) there have been multiple occasions where I have walked in on my father looking at porn. He doesn’t know I’ve seen what he’s looking at as he quickly tries to hide it, and I haven’t told him. I don’t know what to do. A few months ago he and my mother stopped going to church because of some issues they were having with our pastor, and since then it has gotten a lot more frequent. I am pretty sure my mother has caught him before, but he keeps doing it and tries to be sneakier. He has even crashed multiple computers from viruses that came in through the sites he was looking at. It makes me angry and very sad. I feel very betrayed as his daughter and I don’t know what to do. My father has a very bad temper and he gets very upset when anyone confronts him on something he has done wrong. I am temporarily living at home, and if I were to confront him on this while living here I’m not sure I could face him after that, and I don’t know how he will respond and his anger honestly scares me. I’ve thought about all the sneaky ways I can confront him, I could download porn blocking software to his computer while he was away…I could send him anonymous emails for sites on how to get porn addiction help…but that is all very passive and I’m not sure he’d get the message. I pray for his purity every time I see it, but I can’t help but feel there is more that can be done. I can’t even tell anyone I know because they all know my dad and I don’t want to bring any shame to him, and I don’t want anyone to see my dad differently because of this. Any advice you can offer?

I want to let you know that this site is a wonderful resource for those who are looking for help with Porn addiction. I’m going to be blunt…You don’t really see this a lot when you are reading about Porn and being a Christian but here goes: DESTROY YOUR PC or ANY DEVICE with INTERNET ACCESS. I know some people are laughing like…what…how do I survive without internet? Here’s a question to answer your question. If Porn is consuming you and impacting your relationship with Jesus and the Father..the solution starts with fleeing temptation. There is not a quick fix and sobriety requires crucifixion of the flesh. But as a male, I know how temptation can work its way in. Start with removing the source…the internet. Living without the internet can be done…Which is more important…E mail, Online News and Facebook over your Spiritual walk and health. I know this sounds radical, believe me. But the common thread is that the PC/Phones are still there. Here’s another question. Lets say someone has a problem with cocaine. They decide to get clean, but leave a bag of cocaine on their table that just sits there. They walk by it day and night. What will happen eventually? You guessed it. Or what about Opiate use (very addicting and identical to porn addiction). Would a user who is trying to get clean keep pills on their dresser to walk by every day? I’d personally rather be ridiculed for not having a smart phone or PC any day than be enslaved by porn. Now that is not an accusation or passing judgment to anyone because we all sin. My sins are not any less than other sins. But guys we need to start destroying and smashing the idols in our lives that enslave us. Second for XXX Church.com- PLEASE EDIT OR DO NOT POST PEOPLES NAMES IN THE QUESTIONS SECTIONS. THIS IS A VERY SENSITIVE ISSUE AND I’VE ALREADY READ POSTS ABOUT PEOPLE WHO ARE BEARING THEIR SOULS TO OTHERS WHO ARE NOT SENSITIVE TO THIS STRUGGLE. WHEN SOMEONE PUTS A NAME IN THE COMMENTS OR QUESTIONS SECTION….AS A RESPONSIBLE WEBMASTER…PLEASE DO NOT POST THE NAME. THIS ONLY HINDERS PEOPLES ABILITY TO POST THINGS AND THINK ABOUT HOW IT MAKES THE PEOPLE FEEL WHO’S NAMES ARE BEING USED. YOU ARE ADDING SALT TO THE WOUNDS THEY ARE TRYING DEPARATELY TO HEAL. I SAW FULL NAMES, ADDRESSES ETC ON SOME POSTS. PLEASE GO BACK AND DELETE THESE TODAY. I KNOW I’M NOT THE ONLY ONE THINKING IT…BUT WHEN I READ THEM I IMMEDIATELY THOUGHT…WOW…I’D SURE BE MAD IF THEY POSTED MY NAME EVEN IF SOMEONE ELSE WROTE IT. PLEASE TAKE SOME RESPONSIBILITY IN THIS AREA. IN CHRIST…

Is it biblically wrong to masturbate if you are not using porn or thinking of someone else? I’ve heard people say its wrong because it’s a selfish act, but eating dessert or watching a football game is a selfish act too. If the bible says it is wrong please tell me where. Thank you.