Questions

I am thinking about using x3watch as a preventative measuer. For the first time I have unrestricted web access and I understand that I am not beyond temptation. I would like to use this to keep me out if soemthing that can trap me, but i have a question.

I have a livejournal account.
I am not a member of any communities there save for the postsecret community and it is not an adult community.
However, some of the thing posted to the community could be seen that way.

would x3watch moniter my livejournal as well?

Well, it’s not porn. There were some struggles with that with my fiance when he was in high school. And I know God has given him victory in that. But, we’re now engaged. We’ve been dating on and off for 4 years. The first time we broke up after a year of dating because I found out he was looking at soft porn- I didn’t know what else to do. I didn’t want to deal with the lying- when i would ask him to hold him accountable- he would tell me he wasn’t dealing with porn- which was “true.”

We worked through those issues over a few years and have now been back together for a solid year. Every time I would ask him about his purity- he tells me of how God has given him victory. He’s in seminary- studying to be a pastor. A few months ago we got engaged and are planning on getting married next summer. Yet a few days ago- I searched the history on his computer. I think i did it because all along in the back of my mind is that doubt- and I thought- if he’s clean, then our trust is founded and growing. If not, then our trust is shattered.

I found a history of him looking up girls on facebook… very seductive in their dress, a few of them models and a stripper. I had to confront him. And this came after two days earlier asking him his it was going with his purity. He told me great- he’s got accountability of if he looks at a questionable site, it’s emailed to his friends. But facebook. That’s not going to come up in a bad search. He said that these girls requested him as a friend- that it was out of curiosity that he even went to their sites. But this has been going on for at least a year- ever since we started dating again.

I’ve moved to live near him since we were long distance. We’re now engaged. Do I just get over this and keep going? Is this serious enough to break off our engagement to not deal with a life of hurt and mistrust? He’s promised it won’t happen again- but that’s what he said the first time. And over all of that- he’s studying to go into ministry!

What do I do? Will this stop? I know God can give victory, but do I continue on in this relationship knowing that I’ll probably have to deal with this in the future?

I just need some sound godly advice.

Thanks so much.

I just got married to my husband and I love him dearly and I know that the addiction he has will cause our divorce if he does get help, it is affecting our trust, marriage, and family. How can I help him realize how he is affecting our marriage, family and trust?