Questions

Frequently Asked Questions.

sexuality

For my whole life ive been straight but recently ive been unable to help myself from having homosexual thoughts. Im not aroused by these thougths and the idea of acting on them sickens me. Whats wrong with me?

Chris,

Many people have these thoughts of what if or just random thoughts. This does not mean there is something wrong with you. But you do need to becareful and make sure you do not take this any further. Find someone who you trust and talk to them about this. It is good to talk and put out into the open with people you trust how you feel and not keep it pinned inside.

Fear when there is nothing to fear

I’m a 15 year old girl and I’m proud to say I haven’t watched any porn or anything for maybe a week or 2. The urges are gone. I’ve been reading my Bible and I put some scriptures in front of where I put my laptop in my room. My room is full of stuff about God. I’m a lot happier than I was. The only problem is that I’m always really afraid that I’m going to go back. I have a bunch of friends and leaders helping me (and my parents). I don’t want to watch anymore, I feel like it won’t do anything for me. Of course, by not watching it I’ve lost a lot of self control outside of my computer screen. I told myself I wouldn’t date until I was stable and got older and had a car and job, and now I’m losing any faith in being able to do that. I’m so afraid that by not watching I’ll do something I’ll regret (even though I’ll regret watching). I’m trying everything, but I’m still really afraid. How can I not be afraid? That’s one question I can’t find an answer to. I trust God, but I don’t trust myself.

You should not be affraid to like girls or have a relationship with them. This is natural and good. Were it can turn bad is how you handle that relationship.

You are doing the right things in regards to the scripture and hopefully accountability and filter software. Talk to your friends about this and let them know the feelings you are having and how that is making you very nervous.

Porn

How do I get over my addiction? I cannot ban websites; my father will know. I cannot be on the computer less; my college demands are too intensive. I don’t know what to do. This is a major obstacle in my spiritual growth.

You need to tell someone and come clean with this. If this is a huge road block in your life you need to get accountability. I know it will not be easy and you will have to overcome some fears of the “Getting Caught” cycle but, it needs to be done.

Limited internet doesn’t have to be so limited that you can not do your homework. Put a filter on your computer and have someone else set the password for you. This will block out adult content and you will still be able to do your school work.

If you truly want to rid yourself of this you will make the steps but, you have to make the first step now.