Questions

Frequently Asked Questions.

cheating

My girlfriend whom I love in our 4th month of dating in May, I cheated on. I used to be addicted to porn around a year ago and I’ve helped myself get rid of the addiction but it still affects the way I think. On that night i asked an ex-girlfriend to send me a naked picture of herself because I was really horny and just felt so weak. I made another bad decision and didn’t come out with it to anyone and didn’t tell my girlfriend. She just recently found out. She wants me to get help and I want to too, I’m not strong enough to conquer this on my own. Not that I don’t always ask God for help and strength and that he’s not enough, I just know that he’s also working through you and I was just wondering if there are any steps I can take or certain things I can do to just get those nasty thoughts out of my mind and help renew a clean mind in me and not become tempted by other girls. Because I love my girlfriend and I want to marry her she’s the love of my life. But I really need help.

First you need to get accountability and bring someone into this that can hold you up when you need it and call you out as well.

Get accountability software on your computer so that you do not slip up and go back to the porn. (X3 Watch)

I would striongly suggest that you go out and get “Every Young Mans Battle” Not only the book but, the work book as well and go through it with someone.

We will be praying for you as you work through this.

addiction

so, i’ve been addicted to pornography since i was a youngster, before i even knew what porn was. and just very recently i’ve decided that in order to have a full relationship with God i need to give it up. and well, i’m tired of it controlling part of my life.

well, my question is what can i do in the first few weeks to keep it off my mind. cause it’s all i can think of right now because i’m not looking at it. i just really need some guidance in that.

thank you!

the reason that you are always thinking of it is because you have removed a portian of your daily activities and your mind is telling you that you need it in order to make things right. This is a battle that is so tough at times. You are right you need to fill it with something else.

If you have the temptation and you are near a computer and you tend to go to that then you need to leave just take a walk, find friends to see, or just get out of the area for a ride or something.

If you have an accountability partner call them when you are struggelign with the thoughs of wanting it and talkt to them about it to find out what maybe your triggers. Once you have figured out your triggers it will help you to avoid temptation.

porn and sexuality.

Ive been straight my whole life and i know i still am but ive been viewing porn for about 4 or 5 years now.

I quit for a bit then went back around the time i went back to porn my school had a Gay Straight alliance meeting that i attended with my Social Justice class because we were discussing homosexual rights.

Ever since then ive been analysing my life and constantly feeling like im gay having homosexual thoughts and stuff like that.

Im wondering if my porn watching (it was straight porn or solo girl) could be warping my mind?

Each person is diffrent and to say if the porn that you discribe of is what is making you think these thoughts I just do not know. I know that porn can make us do many things that we never thought we could have so it is a possibility.

No matter what you’re thinking you need to get rid of the porn from your life. Have you talked to anyone about this yet? You should talk about it with someone and bring them along side of you and let them help you.

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