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um. don’t know how to start. my father is a pastor of a small church and is looked up to by many, and i was once included. he is considered a saint. he was my role model. i found out he was addicted to porn, and because of his sin, i’m affected too. i can’t tell you what this has done to me these last couple of months. i have had problems in the past with men like this. i must be brutally honest and say that i hate men like that. now i never wish to get married or have any type of relationship. i really don’t know what to do. i feel sick, like this can’t possibly be happening. i want to tell him or anyone, but i’m afraid in doing so, my parent’s marraige will be messed up, our small church will go down in flames, my dad will be out of a job, me and my bro won’t be able to go to our good christian school, and it would be all my fault. i mean, i can carry this burden as long as i need to. i already told someone, and they basicly told me they don’t want to ‘carry my burden’ too. i don’t want to say anything, but how will this affect me in the long run? i know that for me, this can’t be healthy, but if i tell, it could be unhealthy for everyone else. i wouldn’t have told the other person if that’s how they would have reacted, just thought of it as a ‘burden’ and not told me what to do. i had a question, but i don’t really know what to ask…. how bout… HELP? this is sorta a last resort.
Maria,
I know this must be extremely tough right now for you to go through. If you have not done so already I would sit down with your father in a private setting and tell him how you feel and what it is doing to you you.
Yes; this will be tough to do but, you need to have this talk with him. This will allow him a chance to get help and maybe start healing as well. You are right something has to happen and if you publicly call him out on it he will face huge struggles with everything around him. Give him the chance to try and deal with this with you and his family.
We will be praying for yuo and your family as you go through with this. You are an amazing person for doing such a thing and God will be with you the whole time. Make sure to pray for a bit before you do this and ask for His protection, grace, and knowledge when confronting your father.
What’s wrong with porn? I don’t have to point out that you guys are against it, but why? It seems very silly to me. Now, there’s no doubt that it can cause a harmful addiction, or if you’re against explaining to your children what sex, in general, is or where babies come from, it can harm them too in a way. But generally, porn isn’t a bad thing. People masturbate because it feels good. I masturbate because it feels good. So, what is legitimately wrong with pornography aside from my earlier examples and other similar situations?
It all has to do with what you listed first. Those topics are just the surface of each issue. Each thing you listed comes with so much more baggage.
As for the religious portion; there is no one thing that says masturbation is bad in the bible. How ever it does talk about lust and that we should not lust after anyone other than our wives. So for me when it comes down to masturbation; is it a sin? Yes it is. At least the way I did it was.
ok , im 15 and I am in deep wioth porn but I just found God and I was clean from porn and kerking off for over two months but then I sliped up then I did agian yesterday and I feel like God might hate me for it and I shouldn’t go to heavon maybe , I dont know what to do anymore , I watch porn everynight just about and just rub myself and make sure I dont cum , sorry for my langange but I dont klnow any other way to say it.
God does not hate you. In fact he loves you more than you could know right now. We all make mistakes and we can at times slip back into our old styles in life. The thing that counts though is how and what you do with it when you do slip. Get accountability and talk to someone about what is going on. Someone you know and can trust with it. Find a good filter and get accountability software on your computer.
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