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Hey I just turned 15 and i didn’t start looking at porn until about a year ago and ever since, i look at it when ever i have the chance to. But, the other problem is I am really confused right now in my sexuality and most of the porn i look up is is Gay porn. I have tried guilting myself into stopping and it has not worked. And im really scated to tell anyone because people all ready accuse me of being Gay and I am not sure that they are wrong. I allways tell myself it is just a stage I’m going through, and i hope it is right and i all ready masturbate at least once every two days and i dont know what to do.
Have you ever heard or read the scripture about the “kindness of the Lord leads to repentance”? (Romans 2:4)
It was the first thing that came to my mind when I read what you wrote about guilting yourself into stopping. You need unconditional love and kindness. Not bullying by others about your sexuality and you certainly don’t need to throw guilt upon yourself either.
Jesus tells us to cast our burdens onto Him and He will carry them. He loves you just the way you are and He wants you to come to Him with your struggles and your doubt. He has a plan for you and for your life and He means you well. Seek Him and stay in His word. Allow Him to work in your heart and in your life.
Please try to talk with your pastor or an adult who you know cares about you and who lives the kind of life you want to live.
And don’t ever ever ever doubt God’s love or plan for you.
Hi my name is Samuel. I would love to say my addiction has ended, but its not that simple. Right now i am sober for some time, but I am not counting that because i feel that I should focus on sober days, but on my relationship with god. Your site is so far helping me a lot. And there is one question i got for you: What do you think about music I listen? Does it affect me if I am listening not christian music which is mostly dance music and of course theme is of course “love”. I mean these songs are often about some guy/ woman singing about sex but in very indirect way i think., because in music videos you can see it clearly. So what do you think is music which I am listening too important?
I think if you’re asking the question then perhaps something inside of you already knows the answer [for you]. 😉
I think everyone is different but I can tell you for me personally, there is some music that I once loved and listened to for years that I simply cannot listen to today because of where it “takes me” in my mind. I think it depends on the person and shouldn’t become a legalistic matter. I also believe that what we allow into our minds should be edifying and conducive with the way in which we want to live.
If you’re listening to music with lyrics that are constantly pouring sex sex sex into your mind-space then yea I think you may have an issue since you struggle in this area to begin with and should reconsider it.
How do I stop thinking those porn thought s and how do I get them out of my head?
Just like anything else, we must practice something different to begin a new habit. The bible tells us to wash our minds with the Word of God.
You can’t block a thought from coming into your mind but you can certainly control where it goes from there. I find it helpful to refute a lie with the Truth. And call me crazy, but sometimes I have to talk to myself out loud in order to really change the thought patterns.
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