Questions

Frequently Asked Questions.

future sex life

I have a worry. I have girlfriend who I love very much and have been together for a couple of years, we’ve tried not to pass boundaries (sometimes temptation is strong lol) and plan on marriage, but because of circumstances, we have to wait a couple more years. If I wait for so long, could this psychologically affect me to a point where I dont find her sexually attractive or don’t want to have sex?
Let me clear up my question. I am not looking at porn anymore and have been clean and masturbation has been very controlled almost like once a month. And this question is not to justify sex before marriage. But it is a real worry to me.

I see no statistics anywhere that claim if you wait to have sex you will no longer be able to perform or be sexually attracted to the person you want to spend the rest of your life with. I don’t see that anywhere in the Bible either. 😉

homosexuality

im already a christian i thought i will be healed from being a homosexual man when i accepted Jesus Christ wholeheartedly as my Lord & Savior, but why does this sin is still lurk in me and i still have attraction to men and worst having lust to them? is it possible or is there a miracle that a homosexual man will be healed and become a heterosexual man? please help..

Struggling in your mind/heart is not sin. Acting out upon that struggle, that temptation to something you know is sinful is sin. The bible is clear that we will always be enticed by our own desires (James 1:14) and that we will always battle with our flesh. (Galatians 5:17). Romans 7 talks a lot about sin living in us but then gives us the HOPE in Christ that helps us to overcome.

You are not alone and what you are struggling with is not isolated– The bible tells us that the things we struggle with are not uncommon! (1 Corinthians 10:14)

You may want to consider joining a support group in your area or one of our X3groups.

Porn Addiction and Dating

During the years that I have been addicted to porn, my view of women has been twisted and warped. After 6 years of being a slave to porn, I am ready to make a stand at the age of 18. I feel that this website, along with the workshop, is a good first step. However, in his love, sex, and dating series, Andy Stanley suggested that it might be a good idea for some people to take a year off from dating. He said that I can use this year as a time to “renew my mind to think differently” and “make up my mind to behave differently.” I feel that dating, might be a distraction while I try to tear free from this burden, and taking a year off from it to focus on reconstructing the way I think might be a good option. However, this is a big decision. I am currently praying for guidance on this matter. My question to you is: What are your thoughts? Do you think this could be a good choice for me while I take this journey?

Yes! As simple as that: YES!