Questions

Frequently Asked Questions.

Pornography and also peer pressure

I am 15. I am trying to get closer to God. First, I do struggle with pornography. Second, I want to be able to stand up against peer pressure- which really covers a large variety of things for me such as wanting to fit in, be a people person, drugs… And more. Yes, I do have accountability help but I still can find ways to indulge in my selfish desires. There is a girl I have just met who is a beautiful person that loves God. She is such an attractive girl, meaning she has a great personality and is an awesome example of a pure Christian. I do long to grow closer to her but my guilt of past decisions and fear of how my confessions would alter her perspective of me hold me back from furthering our friendship. (Her dad is well aware of my feelings and even suggested making an account here.) I’m not looking for an actual relationship with her but I do know God put her in my life for a reason. How do I find the confidence to (most importantly) make a permanent change in my sinful desires [porn & social pressures] and be open about my past to the girl in order to allow our friendship to grow? Sincerely, Andrew

Dear Andrew,

I think as you continue to walk out your freedom from pornography and pursue God with all of your heart the rest will fall into place in due time. (Matthew 6:33)

Help with porn issues

Hello, I am Victoria, and I am a Christian. I have a problem I cannot seem to forget. Last summer some cousins of mine camre over. She is in high school and learned slot of vulgar stuff. She said go to a porn website, and my older sister called me over and looked it up. I saw it as well and I just cannot forget those images. Then we started to curse. I went along with the older kids wanting To fit in, and I didn’t tell because I didn’t want to be the party pooper. Now every time I think of a person I think of sexual thought. Please help me! What do you suggest for this?

Dear Victoria,

You are definitely not alone. Sin will crouch at the doors (and windows) of our life just waiting to get in and when it does it can be hard to get out. I would highly recommend you talk with someone that you trust that can help hold you accountable.

We also have many blogs and resources for women here at XXXchurch. Read through those. It will help to know you are not alone and perhaps you can find some things that will help you.

God bless you!

Masturbation

My name is adrian and i have made a pledge to god that i would stop going to porn sites and watching things such as that. I have been free of porn for about 6 months now and it has really brought me closer to god. It is during this time of knowing god more that he put it into my heart to rap and to make an album. However i have been getting really mixed signals about whether or not masturbation is ok. Just in case i told god, ok, i wont do this anymore. However recently, i forgot how long ago, i did so again. This was because i was excited and with that excitement i could not go to sleep so i just decided to masturbate. After that all the lustful thoughts that were getting me excited started to fade away and i was able to go to sleep. However i still felt bad about doing it. I also get wet dreams from time to time and before i had decided to try and stop maturbating i would thank god for it because i was once told it was a gift. Basically i just need to know if it is something that i should fight against.

Dear Adrian,

We take the stance that God designed sex and sexual stimulation to be mutual in marriage- a gift to give your spouse. Masturbation only serves self. It has also been repeatedly mentioned amongst so many who have struggled with this that the body can become dependant on masturbation for stimulation and then is not as sensitive in responding to the mutual stimulation found with a spouse. You have to make this decision yourself but this is our take on it.