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Frequently Asked Questions.
This really doesn’t have to do much to a question. When I wa 12, I was raped. And after this happened, the person who done it made me watch pornagrophy because he told me I wasn’t doing it right. Well know, I’m addicted. I don’t necessarily do it for my own pleasure, but so I can plead others. How do I overcome this? I have been saved for about 3 years, and I love God with all my heart, and i have tried to stop multiple times, but I always fail….
Thank you so much for sharing your story with us. I want to encourage you that you are not alone. There are so many other women who are experiencing the same struggles as you and we are praying for you. I also want to encourage you to find someone you can trust, who understands sexual addiction and you can share your story with. Satan would love to keep you and your struggle in darkness but God has a better plan, and that is for full healing and freedom, which can only happen when this is brought to the light.
I am a 14 year old christian, I struggled with porn ever since I walked in on my brother watching it, and I’ve stopped and I confessed & been forgiven. Say if I was stupid enough to start again, would I go to Hell. So I’m basically asking if you go to Hell if you don’t repent to God for watching pornography.
To tell you that you will go to hell for something is not something we are able or should do. What I can tell you is that we are all forgiven for our sins, all of them. But we need to turn to God and ask Him for the fogivness and work on living our life in a way that is pleasing to God.
I used to watch pornography a lot. I’m ashamed to say, I sent pictures and videos of myself to people I don’t know. After I went to church camp two months ago, I told a lady named Jen about my problem. I didn’t tell her everything, just about the porn. She helped me a lot and my realationship with Christ felt newer than ever. When I came home, up until yesterday I hadn’t glimpsed at porn or sent a picture. Unfortunatley today, for some reason I had an urge to watch it. I gave in, watched porn, started talking to those people again. Almost immediatley, I clicked off the website. After about 2 or 3 hours, I stopped talking to those people. How can I be done with this once and for all? I put the safety on my phone and laptop. But I don’t want this guilt anymore. And I don’t want constant dirty thoughts and images in my head. I felt SO good up until yesterday. Now I just feel terrible all over again. I am TERRIFIED to tell anyone about my problems.. What should I do? Thank you for reading and your help!
Confess this to God and tell Him that you want to change and that you want for Him to send people in your life who will help you win this fight. He will hear your pray and He is a powerful God but, He will not just come down here and stop it for you. He will provide you the tools and the resources but, He wants you to step and do this thing.
After you have talked to God about this find someone right away that you know who can be your accountability partner. Someone who you see often and will have the ability to hold you accountable at all costs. Being your age I would suggest it be someone who is your elder and will be able to provide good mature counsel on this issue. This can be someone from your church, family member, and maybe even your parents. I know this step is tough but, you have to do this if you want to get free from this. You will not be able to do this on your own.
After you have an accountability partner you need to sit down with them and build a plan figure out what your triggers are and how they affect you. Get accountability software. If the internet or mobile devices are you hang up and this is where you turn to get your porn, get accountability and filter software right away and get this covered. We have a great program called X3 Watch that you could use for this. Set up a meeting schedule to meet with your accountability partner to discuss how things are going and if you are following your sobriety plan that you have developed with them.
Do not think this will go away over night; you have trained your brain to need this crap and you will need to train your brain that it is not needed and that it will hurt you. Celebrate small victories and do not give up if there are stumbles, keep going and dig in for the fight. Please know that you are not alone in this and that God loves you so much. He will never remove His love for you because of what you did, are doing, or might do during your recovery. We are here praying for you and know that you can do this.
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