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I was introduced to porn when I was seven. I wasn’t too devoted to God back then. I call those years my ‘stupid’ years. I had sex with 3 girls and seven guys. All of those girls are done with it, but one of the seven guys is still on me. I last had sex with him in february, but then I met my girl. He was still on me, even though I blocked him from everywhere. I have learned, thanks to my girl, that I watched porn because I was somehow angry. I have told him to stop, but he won’t. One day, my girl was absent for a long time and I freaked out a bit and that guy came asking for coitus. I stupidly said yes. Although she’s not my girlfriend yet, I feel I haven’t been true to her, but I love her a lot and I want to tell that guy to stop with the sex thingy. My questions are; Is the guilt ever repairable? And how do I get him to understand I don’t want sex anymore?
This sounds like you need to cut all ties with this guy and get your life in order with your girl. Tell him to stop calling you and that you do not want any more communication with him. If it requires you to change numbers and email address’s then it needs to be done.
The quilt does go away but, it will take some time and you need to work on clearing your head of the old you and allow the new you to tak over.
You also need to lay this all down in front of God and give it all up to Him. Release the sin in your life and allow Him to take it away from you.
Okay so I asked a similar question before but I don’t think it got an answer. Idk. Anyway, this question requires a little back story… When I was about 8, I was involved in this group we call tod short for truth or dare. We would dare eachother to do sexual things to eachother. There were 3 other kids in the group. Two were 7 and one was 13. And anyway, I just want to know if you would consider what went down as like sexual abuse? I am confused about it and I think that those things could be the root of my porn and masturbation addiction.
If you where not forced into these events I would not consider it sexual abuse. How ever if you where forced to do these acts and it was against your will then it would be.
I think it would be a good hting to talk to someone about this as this could lead you into thinking diffrently about sex some day and you really need to clear the air with this.
I accidently posted my question in the confession field. Long story short I am a christian that is 15. My girlfriend and I met at a church camp, and have been dating ever since. Despite only being together for 2 months, we have a very strong bond and our relationship has been able to flourish through the work of christ, and for this i am forever grateful. We have both decided we do not want to do anything sexual until marriage and have continued to honor that commitment. Two weeks ago I told her that I had fingered my last girlfriend and she confessed she had given her ex boyfriend a blowjob. We discussed how we both felt hurt but we were glad that we trusted each other enough with a deep secret like those. Everything has been great and if anything telling each other has made us realize we are not perfect and it has made us closer to each other for that reason. I have struggled with masturbating for over 2 years now. I truly love my girlfriend and I have been trying really hard to quit for her. I usually last about 10 days before I give in. I do not want to live a lustful life anymore. I know how hurt she would be if she knew that I masturbate. I do not watch porn very frequently at all, and most of the time I pleasure myself to the thought of her, however I know this is still sinful and she would be saddened by this. I want to tell her but I feel I will lose her. What should I do?
John,
I would suggest that you seek some guidance and get some accountability from your youth pastor. I think this person would be good for you to connect with. This is someone that you will see often and should be able to ask you the tough questions and hold you accountable.
As for telling your girlfriend I would just work on finding a way to remove this sin from your life. There is no reason right now for you to tell her and hurt her more.
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