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Frequently Asked Questions.
I Need Help! I Have Been Addicted To Pornography And Masturbation Since I Was 14 I Have Given Up On This I Guess This Is Just How Life’s Going To Be I Have No Accountability Partner I’m Isolated In My Home And I’m Completely Lonely I Don’t Go To Church Anymore And I’ve Never Had A Girlfriend I’ve Tried Everything To Be Free In A Way I’m Ready For Suicide By The Way Im 18 PLEASE I NEED HELP NOW!
Confess this to God and tell Him that you want to change and that you want for Him to send people in your life who will help you win this fight. He will hear your pray and He is a powerful God but, He will not just come down here and stop it for you. He will provide you the tools and the resources but, He wants you to step and do this thing.
After you have talked to God about this find someone right away that you know who can be your accountability partner. Someone who you see often and will have the ability to hold you accountable at all costs. Being your age I would suggest it be someone who is your elder and will be able to provide good mature counsel on this issue. This can be someone from your church, family member, and maybe even your parents. I know this step is tough but, you have to do this if you want to get free from this. You will not be able to do this on your own.
After you have an accountability partner you need to sit down with them and build a plan figure out what your triggers are and how they affect you. Get accountability software. If the internet or mobile devices are you hang up and this is where you turn to get your porn, get accountability and filter software right away and get this covered. We have a great program called X3 Watch that you could use for this. Set up a meeting schedule to meet with your accountability partner to discuss how things are going and if you are following your sobriety plan that you have developed with them.
Do not think this will go away over night; you have trained your brain to need this crap and you will need to train your brain that it is not needed and that it will hurt you. Celebrate small victories and do not give up if there are stumbles, keep going and dig in for the fight. Please know that you are not alone in this and that God loves you so much. He will never remove His love for you because of what you did, are doing, or might do during your recovery. We are here praying for you and know that you can do this.
Well, I have been trying to live with God for about a month now, and it has been great. I love getting to know Him! Tonight, I was getting ready for bed and then I realized that my brother was out of town which meant that his non-protected computer was free. I knew that I shouldn’t look at porn and I could have said no but for some reason i gave in. After i watched some, I broke down and cried. I listened to some Hillsong and then found myself on here. Why did I not overcome my temptation even though I knew it was wrong?
Nick,
You need to talk to someone about getting the unprotected computer protected. I know it will be hard but, you need to tell someone that you are struggeling with this and that having that computer unprotected is only causing you issues.
Over the past 10 months i have been trying to quit my gay porn addiction. I feel like i am the only guy who watches gay porn but at the same time likes girls. It makes me feel alone and that im not normal. I want to stop so bad and be a 100% striaght guy, but i just keep failing and it gets harder and harder to stop masterbating. Im tired of failing and i want to stop but im not sure how. I just want to know how do i stop veiwing gay porn and is it possible for me to be a 100% straight guy?
George,
You are not the only one who deals with the issue of SSA out there. We get a lot of emails in regards to this very topic.
The same thing for any porn though and the desire to remove it from your life applies though. You need to first confess this to God. Yes, He does already know but, he wants to hear it from you and know tha you honestly do want to stop this.
The next thing is to talk to someone who you trust and bring them into this battle with you and help you fight the temptation and desires to look at this stuff. Build a battle plan and be very open and honest about all aspects that suround you and this struggle.
Please know that you are not the only one dealing with this and that God wants you to be free from this. Also know that we will be praying for you as well.
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