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Frequently Asked Questions.
I’m still stuck in this ugly sin!! I have confessed it to a friend and have accountability as well as confessing to the lord. The problem is I still do it!! I try my hardest to prevent any possible scenario to fall in. It seems I can’t escape it! I’m at a loss here. I try to restrict my Internet access and be accountable but I still find ways around it!! Should I be more radical in my approach?? I hope you can help me finally dispose of this decade long sin
Keep moving in the direction that you are. Also yes; you need to be more aggresive in your recovery. Remove any and all items that might be leading you into this sin.
Stay honest with your accountability partner(s) and do not give up on this. It will take time but, it will be a new you soon.
Is masterbation a sin?
Our stance is simply this: you want to live a life that is honoring to God then start pleasing him and stop pleasing yourself. Stop making excuses and get some control over your life. Yes, it is tough. Yes, we know hormones are raging. However, God is calling us to holiness. Live an extraordinary life. Masturbation will leave you hanging every time! It is a selfish act that pleases no one but YOU. God created sex to be between a man and his wife. Not a man and his girlfriend and not a man or woman with himself or herself.
I feel like lust and porn has made me look at woman differently, I can’t seem to shake lustful thoughts about woman I see. I hate it. I’m seeking a deeper relationship with God but I feel like this seems to hold me back.
Lets break this down a bit. You have admitted this as a struggle and confessed it to God and this is the first step; great job. You have also allowed God into this process to help you become pure again but, you have stopped here and not allowed real change.
God is amazing and through Him all things can be done; THROUGH Him. The thing is you have prayed to Him for help and the that this would stop but, He is not going to just make this stop. What He will do though is provide you the tools, people, and resources to fight this battle and aid you in doing this. You just need to look around and see what that is.
You need to find accountability to help you in this fight and is willing to hold you to you desire to be pure. This person could be a friend, family member, or someone from your church. But, you need to have accountability in this because you will not be able to do it alone, I promise. I know this is a tough thing to do but, if you do not do it now on your terms that it will happen and it will not be on your terms and it will not be pretty.
Your vow to stop; is good but, this is what we call white knuckle change not real change. White knuckle change is when we promise to stop cold turkey and pound our fist to the table and say enough is enough I am done with this. We do good for a few days, weeks, maybe a little longer but, what happens after that is temptation creeps in. We fight the desire to look but, it gets tougher and tougher to the point that we clasp our fist and make a fist trying to fight it till our knuckle turn white and then we just cave in and look. Real change is getting to know why we look at this stuff. Figuring out the psychological structure behind the addiction with looking at this stuff. Understanding what unconditional love is and knowing how much He really loves us for who we are. Then real change will take place and until we do this and allow for real change to take place we will relapse again and again.
Resources for real change would be the very place I learned it was a book called Pure Eyes that you can find in the XXXchurch.com store. You can also find solid accountability software and filters at www.X3Watch.com
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