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Hi:
I thank God for the great things I see you are doing for His people. I am a Catholic and married. Been in love with the Lord more everyday. I have a great relationship with my wife ,however not in the bedroom!! I would like to chat with someone who can help me with my situation. Its hard to put down at once. If possible, can you let me know who to e-mail and perhaps discuss my struggle with my problem?
I love the Lord with my whole heart and soul, and others should know no matter how you love Jesus, we are human and do fail all the time. I am Catholic and love the faith I practice. I also love all my brother and sisters in other religious organizations.
I know there are many obstacle in our lives we have to deal with. This one has been my struggle for many many years. I feel like St. Paul who had his struggles to deal with, and can relate to his writing in the bible.
I look forward to your reply and will of course keep on praying that God will lead me to who He has called to assist me.
Thank you and God Bless you.
Gary,
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Well, I feel really ashamed to be asking a question about pornography. I do not look every single day or every single week. It depends on when I am stressed as to if or when I look at pornography. If I have a major assignment due or a major test, I usually end up needing relief and so I turn to pornography to masterbate. I know it is wrong, at least for what I believe and the beliefs I hold. I have gone over 6 months without even looking, but that was 3 years ago when I first went off to college. Now, I am a junior and I still have this problem nagging me on the inside. I know my temptations, I know when it’s lurking, and I know when my body has urges to relieve itself sexually. I’ve had accountability partners for two years. Ijust don’t now what’s going on with myself. I try to figure it out, but then I just draw mind blanks. So, I just want to ask if there is something I’m missing or something that Im not completely following through with that will get me up and over this mountain?
Tyler,
You need to stop looking for the long term and look at what is in front of you right now. Each day, day by day. This is something that you will fight for a long time. You need to take each day and fight the battle. Each day is a victory that you can win. If you look at it this way you will go a lot further than you have before.
Bring others in this with you like you have done before. But remember that you need to keep your accountability partners accountable of holding you accountable.
We will be here praying fro you as you make your next steps.
i have been struggling with porn and all other forms of lust since i was around 8 or 9 years old. and i want to quit with all my heart but i dont know how. i truly want to serve God to the best of my abilities but how can i if im not being obedient? so please help me out.
From here you need to talk to someone about this and get accountability with your struggles. Sit down and develop a plan to cut this sin right at the knees. Place accountability software on your computer, mobile phone, and/or your mobile devices. We suggest X3 Watch for accountability software which you can download for free at www.x3watch.com. You should also place a filter on your computer as well. This would be like having an alarm on your house and then locking the door with both of these on your computer. When you do get a filter you should have your accountability partner set the password so that you can not just change it when you want to look at porn.
You have to remove this from your life completely. Get rid of any movies, pictures, files, or any item with adult content. Destroy it and be done with it but, when you destroy it do it in a way that will not allow for this to get into someone else’s hands. If the filters and accountability software will not work then you may have to take drastic measures and remove your computer, get an older phone without Internet, or remove the Internet from your computer. It all
comes down to completely removing it and the temptation from your life.
All too often we work on our habits of viewing porn instead of the reasons why we view porn. You need to get down to the root issues of why you go back to it and keep doing so. This may take some time and effort to discover this. But through talking with people about this or your accountability partner you will begin to see areas of your life, your past, and items that trigger your porn use. I strongly recommend counseling for this as they can really get there a lot faster than we can by providing great tools to deal with the items that arise.
Everyone is different but, a few things that I have found that worked in my recovery and from other I want to share with you.
Dive into the word daily. Spend time with God and find out what you have been missing and He will show you things you may nit have before.
Track your day and see when you’re most prone to look at porn. From here developed a daily plan to counter attack these temptations based on your observation of your own patterns.
Discover your triggers. When you look back and think of when you were most venerable, what was going on at the time? Were you stressed out, tires, bored, angry, or lonely? These are some of the key triggers for people and you need to locate them and be aware of it. When you notice your trigger topic happening you then need to react and move away from it. It may take sometime to notice and be aware of it but, this is very important.
Share with others: this can also be tough to do but, it will help you grow and heal faster. Also we know how lonely this feels to be trapped like this to porn. We also know that when others see that there is someone else who has been through it or going through it they are more willing to seek help or talk about it. You never know this could be a start to a small group of people who meet and hold each other accountable.
Please know that you are not alone in this and that you can work through this. Yes; it will not be easy but it can be done. We are here for you and praying for you.
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