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Frequently Asked Questions.
Hey, This may sound really dumb, but I’m just trying to do the right thing. I haven’t looked at full-blown pornography, but in the past I’ve searched things I should not have searched (like wikipedia articles on sex), or athletics articles with attractive women, or on a couple of occasions I’ve clicked on people’s facebook profiles if I’ve found them attractive. This hasn’t accompanied masturbation or anything like that, and usually in the middle of it I’ve got a hold of myself and clicked out of it. (Like, how did I get here?! What am I doing?) I was exposed to porn as a teenager by my dad, I was addicted for a while as a teen and have had occasional slips since I’ve been married, but never full addiction. I’ve talked to my wife about my failures in the past, and she’s been forgiving but at one point she has threatened to leave me. I have not been the most caring or involved husband, I feel like my feelings are very shut off and hard to express, which has made our marriage difficult on top of this. Furthermore, she has a bad perception of your own body image and I don’t want her to feel worse. I’m afraid if I tell her some of my failings now she’s going to feel awful and possibly leave me. I have three children and I’m terrified I’ll barely get to see them again. This things may seem minor compared to others, but it bothers my conscience to not tell anyone. I’ve repented to God and have no desire to screw up again, and for the most part I have things under control. I just have keeping these things secret. Are these failures even confession-worthy? Am I just suffering from an over-sensitive conscience? Or do I tell her, and how do I?
Bless your heart. You do sound so sincere and like you really want to make things right. I would consider finding yourself a good male friend that you can share with- someone you trust. If you are not acting out with porn and masturbation then I do not know what there is to confess to your wife. But I do think talking with a trusted friend about the pressures and the temptations can help relieve them. If you haven’t checked out Craig Gross’ latest book OPEN, I would highly recommend it.
Ive been tempted with porn and masturbation since I was 12 and Ive struggled to be clean of it and have talk with my dad and told friends about this. However I started dating this girl 9 months ago and I feel convicted to tell her. Should I and if so how? I want to be honest with her but don’t know i should wait until I’m further in the relationship?
I think if you’ve been dating for 9 months she probably needs to know. I think you need to be limited in detail but I do think she needs to know where you’re at with it.
I have been searching everywhere for an answer about the efficiency of the x3watch app. My question is: if you have the app on your iPhone, it only tracks the sites you’ve been to while only using the app correct? For example if you have the x3watch app and you have the google chrome web browser also, can’t you go look at porn on the chrome web browser that also has incognito feature on it? I couldn’t find this answer and I don’t know if this is the correct place to ask it. Thanks ! I am aware about Safari being disabled also.
Hey R.,
You have posted this question on the ministry side of XXXchurch and we are unable to answer software questions over here—- but you can go to X3watch.com and click on tech support and either chat with a live reprensentative during business hours or submit a ticket.
I hope this helps.
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