Questions

Frequently Asked Questions.

Social Networking Sites

Hi all, I am overcoming my addiction to porn and I am almost 3 months sober by the grace of God. I was wondering if there are an social networking sites to particularly avoid. I know that tumblr.com is full of horrible things as well as Twitter. (I pray that this does not cause anyone to sin.) I am am primarily concerned with Pinterest (pinterest.com). Do you know anything about the content policy? I want to use the site but I don’t want to be tempted if I can avoid it. Thanks everyone.

fantasy

So I struggle with Porn everyone in a while, but where my biggest problem seems to lie is in my mind. i can go a long time without looking at it but every night i go to bed i feel like i have to fantasize about women and end up falling. its like a ritual or a need i have to complete before my body lets me go to sleep. idk if i need to get some psychological help or if there is some else i can do….i feel like if i can change the way i think i could overcome it but i really dont know what to do and how to stop.

Accountability

I’ve struggled with masturbation for a while. I feel like I am on the verge of making it a past habit, but at the same time I dare say its not an issue anymore because I don’t want to let my guard down. I never planned on sharing this with a future wife until I was at least engaged. But I have a serious girlfriend now, the issue came up and I confessed my bad choices to her. She has the right to know and ask questions, because my past actions can have an impact on my future marriage. However, she recently asked me if I had done it again since we last talked. I hadn’t, but the question made me very uncomfortable, and I’m not sure what to do with it. I don’t feel like she should ask me that, because I feel like she is acting as an accountability partner and I don’t know if that is a good/healthy role for a girlfriend to play. She did not mean it as a means of accountability, but just as her wanting to know for her own benefit. Nevertheless, I am just not sure how that should look. I would greatly appreciate some wisdom on this.

To have her as your accountability partner is not a healthy role. But you opening the doors of this conversation allows her the ability to ask how you are doing with this.

It is not bad to have her ask from time to time. But, if it gets to much just tell you how you feel about it. Be honest and let her have the ability to ask from time to time. Set up boundries with this.