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Frequently Asked Questions.
I have been straight from porn for 2 years, then randomly. I watched porn a few days ago, for one day and one day only. Why? I ask my self. I know what i did was bad, I went ahead with it anyway. Im 15, I know my hormones will be raging right now. But how can I control my urges?, I dont want to sin to god.
Free for two years and then you messed up. I think two years of freedom and living with self control says a LOT. I would rather focus on that and the goodness of God in that rather than the one day you gave in. The Word says “for though the righteous fall seven times, they rise again…” (proverbs 24:16) Notice it doesn’t say an unrighteous man or a failure of a man it says a RIGHTEOUS MAN.
Keep pressing into the Lord, stay in His word, keep yourself accountable to someone you trust. You’re doing great.
I have been dating this girl for almost 2 years. She knows about my addiction and had been very supportive. She is the reason I want to beat porn! I intend to marry her, and already have the ring. I want to wait till I have a good start on getting past my addiction. I have done things in the past that i am not proud of, and I honestly wish i could forget. Nothing illegal or immoral just not proud of them. She knows about my internet usage history, but not my physical history. (one night stands and such) I want to be honest with her, but don’t want to hurt her or risk scaring her away. How much should I tell her? or should I just say the past is the past and start fresh with no history for her to think about or worry over? (BTW she is a worrier over EVERYTHING)
I think pre-marital counseling should address this. Perhaps talk with whoever is doing the pre-marital counseling for you in private about it first and get their take on how to bring it up. I personally believe laying everything out is important BEFORE marriage. I don’t think you need to get into specific details about each encounter but I don’t think it is fair or right to withhold the information that you have been sexually active before.
You are certainly not alone.
Best wishes
I have been addicted to porn for over 6 years. Sience last June I have been desperately trying to quit sometimes I make it a week sometimes just a cupple days, recently I Made it over a month from December 14- January 17 or so. I think my problum is I drift away from god for just a cupple days I don’t read the bible or pray and next thing I know I’m looking at something that I shouldn’t be looking at. Will I really have to open my bible everyday for the rest of my life to beat this habit? I feel strong when I read everynight. But that’s hard for me to do. Music also helps me lecrae, and the whole 116 crew.
God tells us that we need our ‘daily bread’ (His word) so yes- if He is saying we need a dose of it daily then I take Him at His Word.
However- it is not about all that you can do right- it is about what God has already done so that you can live a life right- a life full of abundance and blessing. Focus more on a relationship with Him rather than a set of do’s and don’ts and you will be much better off.
God wants to get closer to you. Draw near to Him and He WILL draw near to you.
Best wishes!
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