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Child porn

Just wondering what kind of resources you have for people addicted to child pornography and for those who are hurting children? Thank you.

Laureen,

Right now we do not have anything directly for child pornography. Whit this though I would really suggest that if syou or someone you know is looking at this type of stuff that they find someone locally that is a profesional consoler who they can sit down with and work this out. It would be in there best interest to have them do this.

You can also check with your local church as well to see if they know of folks who can help with this as well.

Child viewed porn

Hi, We have a 10-year-old who I bought an ipod touch for (BIG mistake) and who I caught looking at hard core porn about a year ago. So we had a talk with him and disconnected it from our wifi network. We have passcodes on all computers and do not have cable TV. He recently got back on the internet on the ipod and looked at more. So we had to get rid of the ipod. I am horrified about him seeing the things he has seen at such a young age. Is there anything else I can do to keep him off the porn? When he originally got on to it, he was searching for innocent things. I am not concerned that there are other issues, but now that he has seen it he is drawn to it. Thanks

I am so sorry to hear about your son’s early exposure to pornography!  I know that for any parents, it can be very troubling to realize that their son or daughter saw such graphic content at such a young age.  It can also be difficult to process the reality that their children are drawn to the pornographic content that they encounter online, but you and all parents with this experience should realize that this story is all too common.  Whenever we allow our children to have unrestricted Internet access, we are placing them at risk to encounter pornography, and it’s only natural for them to feel a combination of interest, fear and excitement when they encounter sexual content.  Boys (and many girls too) are naturally attracted to naked bodies, but, unfortuntately, at a young age, they do not have the mental maturity to be able to distinguish between fantasy, healthy sexuality, pornography and real sex.  Since kids have such easy access to pornography and sexual content through the Internet, cable and their mobile devices, parents have to be vigilant.

We recommend that parents:

  • Use parental controls on all Internet-connected devices (their home computer, laptops, gaming devices, mobile phones, smartphone, iPads, etc… and we recommend SafeEyes).  Passcodes are often not enough, we need to have a strong filter turned on to prevent accidental and intentional exposure.
  • Have regular conversations about healthy sexuality, and use everyday opportunities to reinforce your values and standards regarding sex.  So take the extra step to continue to process and address this topic with your son (beyond the initial talk you had when he first was encountering pornography).
  • Talk about why pornography isn’t healthy or good, and address the harms of pornography in an age-appropriate fashion.
  • Engage with other parents.  So often, even when parents have set up appropriate restrictions and parental controls at their home, their children encounter pornography at a friend’s home.  Find out what safeguards other parents have established before allowing your son or daughter to spend the night or hang out at someone else’s home.  Debrief with them when they come home and watch for warning signs that they are encountering pornography or using pornography.
  • Consider reading a book together with your son when he reaches his teenage years (such as Every Young Man’s Battle).
  • If he continues to struggle with addictive access to pornography, it may be useful to talk with a local counselor regarding how to help your son appropriately process the content that he has seen.
  • Check out our resources and information on the site… more will be coming soon!

Literature for Children

I have young boys and the oldest is getting to an age where he is extremely curious about the female body. With internet accessible in so many different places I’m concerned he might try to look at images that are inappropriate. We have our computer in a public place and there is a net filter etc.

However, I don’t want him to just be without access. I want him to understand why it is wrong and why these things are bad for him and for the people who are producing it.

Do you have any suggestions for books etc for kids under 13?

I never thought I’d have to think about this but I want to be proactive and not see my own children in a trap I found myself in.

I would check out the resources section in the site. I have provided the link here as well.

https://xxxchurch.com/get-help/parents

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