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A friend at church gave me your web address and said there is a way to type in an accountability partner’s e-mail so that if I were to go to any questionable sights that person would be sent an e-mail indicating so. How would I set that up?
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My girlfriend and I have been dating for about a year and a half, and she recently confessed to me that she has been struggling with masturbation since she was young. I want to help her break free, but I’m not sure how I should go about doing it. Usually I’d seek guidance from a few strong, close Christians in my life, but I want to keep this issue confidential for her sake. Masturbation/pornography used to be a big struggle in my life, but by God’s grace it has not been an issue for a couple years. We have remained pure in our relationship, and I encouraged her to share her struggle with a woman in her life, to which she agreed. I really care for this girl and have indefinite plans to propose in the next couple months. Is there something I can be doing to help her? Resources (from a Christian perspective) are so hard to find for my relatively unique situation. Thanks so much in advance.
I think the advice that you have already given her to share her struggles with other women in her life is the best suggestion.
Due to the closeness of your relationship, your own previous struggles and just normal temptation that couples in a dating or courting relationship face, I would advise that this (her struggle with masturbation) not be something you try to hold her accountable to. I would however say it is OK to hold her accountable to finding a good female accountability partner to discuss all of it in depth with.
Best wishes to you both!
Ive confessed, Ive repented, and I truly believe Jesus broke my chains. So why do I still lust and watch (or almost watch) porn when I’ve been freed? Why can’t I seem to step out of the chains that I know Jesus broke when He washed me with His blood?
The bible is clear that we will always deal with our flesh and that it is going to be a battle but the good news is that we can rule over our flesh through the Spirit. If you have repented as you said you have, then freedom is possible and it is always God’s best. If you are not experiencing freedom then I would suggest that you look at several suggestions given to us in the Word and ask yourself if you are fully embracing those suggestions that lead to freedom from things that we are in bondage to.
1. Confess your sins to one another (James 5:16) — That’s accountability Do you have this? Really have this the way accountability was meant to be and is intended for? The book OPEN talks about this in depth.
2. Remove stumbling blocks ( 1 Corinthians 8: 1-13) — That is removing our ability to indulge in something that is harmful to us. Television may not be harmful to you but it might be a stumbling block for me. So since I know this then I need to take every measure to remove access— disconnect cable etc. For you it might be a smart phone. You may need to lay down the smart phone with access to porn 24/7 for a season until you are stronger or have better accountability and accountability measures in place. Make sense?
3. Keep short accounts with God. (1John 1:9)
I hope this helps.
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