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Well, I grew up in a large Christian family, when I was little, I always saw my dad watching porn,and to this day he is still addicted to it. When I was six, my mom divorced him because of his drinking problem and his porn addiction and he was a little on the abusive side. Well, I met my husband when I was 16, I got pregnant, and a year and a half later we got married. i never realized how much porn he watches until a couple months ago. We used to have sex at least 5-6 days a week at now only a couple times and it doesn’t last very long sometimes. I confronted him about him watching porn and at first he told me “its just porn its not like I’m cheating” and that whole convo was a fail. Well a month ago, I explained to him about how I grew up and how porn had interfered with my mom and dad’s marriage and how badly of an effect it has. And I explained to him that it really hurts me that he pleasures himself while watching naked women online. It makes me feel like I’m not good enough for him. Well he admitted that he was wrong for what he did and he promised me that he wouldn’t watch it anymore. I forgave him. Now, he has broken his promise and he’s sneaking behind my back watching porn on his iPad. I found it on there yesterday and he had hidden the bottle of lube that was in his underwear drawer, in the closet in his bag of old stuff. I just want this to end. I’m not angry at him. I’m just hurt and I’m lost. He has been skipping sex all week, and masturbating to porn instead. We used to have an amazing sex life and I’m always open to trying new things with him. I don’t know what to do anymore.

I have been dating my boyfriend for about 4 months now, but we have known each other for almost two years. Recently we had a confession time of our past and things we were struggling with. I confessed to masturbation as well as porn (however, porn has not been a recent issue). Anyways, he confessed to the same things, but had told me a while back that porn was in his past, and I found out recently that it’s still something he struggles with. He lied to me because he didn’t want me to leave him based on a weakness, which I can understand. However, I am so troubled on how to handle the situation now. I need help! I am not about to leave him, but I don’t want this lifestyle to continue. Any suggestions?

Im a 23 yo famale and I got adicted to porn wheni was 12 years old. I have tried to quit so many times i have lost track of it. I grew up in a strict christian home where things like sex and pornography were never discussed but were always said to be terrible sins that God frowned at. With this in mind i could never tell anyone and i carried around the shame for 10 years before i was able to tell someone last year. I have told four people since then and it doesnt make it any easier to overcome. I long for intimacy that isnt related to sex. i have never had intimacy like that with God or man and i found it in pornography even if its just for a few moments. I have tried to find support groups or anything at all that can help a woman struggling with this addiction but its still such a tabboo that im too scared to ask. Please help me i feel like im drowning…