Questions

Frequently Asked Questions.

masturbation i cant stop.

I am addicted to masturbation. I do it, then stop and then I do it again. How can I stop? I don’t watch porn, but my thoughts are what get to me. its more of a stress reliever. I am a single mom, I was in a tough relationship and its been a year since I have left him and have been involved in church for 2 years. I am soo ashamed of this secret.

Laura,

You are not alone. Shame is also not from God– it’s from the enemy. I do think as hard as it would be to confess and get some accountability from a trusted girlfriend–this is what you need to do.

Craig’s book OPEN talks about why accountability is so important and what it should look like. Maybe that would be a start for you.

Ministering to strippers

My roomate and I have recently been developing a passion to minister to people with sexual addiction, mainly strippers. We want to build a relationship with the local strippers in town, but we would like some pointers on where to start. We literally know nothing about this. Thank you for your time and consideration.

Awesome!

A great place to start would be a StripChurch training! I do believe there is one coming up next month!

My husband confessed to using porn

The story is pretty simple. My husband was addicted to porn before we were married but broke free. He had be clean for a couple years. But he has now confessed to somehow getting caught up in it again. He is truly sorry and is taking the steps t break free and have accountability . I want to know what tools there are for me to heal, feel comfortable with him again, and truly forgive him. I love him but I would be lying If I said this did not devastate me and break my trust. I feel worthless, broken and like I’ll barely live again. I see plenty of tools for his recovery, but what can I do to recover? How can I grow to trust him again? We both love the Lord and praying hard about this but I just don’t know how to get through it.

You most definitely need support and wisdom to walk with your husband in a healthy way through this. We have an entire blog for spouses plus resources here. One of my favorite books written by the wife of a sex addict is called An Affair of The Mind by Laurie Hall. She validates what a lot of wives experience with their emotions and thoughts but shares how to turn that into powerful prayer for your spouse. I found this book to be helpful and packed full of Scripture.

Pure Life Ministries also offers a counseling program for wives called OCAH.

Best wishes!