Questions

Frequently Asked Questions.

homosexuality premarital sex right and wrong.

It’s called being human. It happens. How can you claim to be good people when you ask all to defy passion and love. Homosexuality is fine. We should all be uniting and trying to increase the amount of love in this world, not deny people the right.
Do any of you find it funny how the bible says god will remove all your flaws and replace them with perfection? but then what defines you as a person? What makes your wife your wife? None shall enter heaven as themselves, nor can they ever be forgiven, accepted or righteous in your so called gods eyes.
I have several homosexual friends and have watched love blossom and envied, for your resistance makes their love stronger. I drink socially and engage in premarital sex. I consider myself to be a good person and so do many around me.
So I guess my question is. What makes you think you are more righteous than other people? Why do you feel you have the privledge to decide what is right and wrong?

I am sorry you see it that way. It is not that we think we are more righteous than anyone else. Quite the opposite actually. We are here to love like God does. He doesn’t love us anymore than anyone else. We go to porn conventions, strip clubs, brothels and more to share God’s unconditional love with all we contact. We do not hate homosexuals. We do however believe the word of God and that is what we aim to live by. We are not deciding what is right and wrong, we are simply living by God’s word and example and aiming to love and grow through that. We are here to help those who want help with their sexual struggles – not to point fingers in any way. Anyone can be a good person but that doesn’t mean one is living the way God intends. We are human and we all sin and make mistakes. This life is a journey. We don’t have it all together and that’s where Grace comes into play.

Feel free to let me know if you have anything else.

Thanks.

Protecting myself from men involved with porn

I have recently started dating again after several years. I’ve read that porn usage is as high in the church as in the population at large. I have recently been getting to know a gentleman at my church, and there have been no indications of any problems, but I’m not sure I’d recognize it if there were. How can I determine as I get to know this person (or any other) if he’s using pornography?

I may be overreacting, but I’ve heard some scary stories lately from some of my women friends.

I wouldn’t assume for the worst. While there is a possibility that he may be into pornography, if there haven’t been any signs, I don’t see why you would assume for the worst.

adultery

Do you have any advice, help, or encouragement to offer to my husband and I (he has been involved in an adulterous affair for the past year)? Accountability groups or just whatever would help us. We are really struggling. Thank you

Sue,

You can check out our resources & referrals in the Get Help section of this site. There are groups listed as well as online support groups.

Obviously this has crossed over into an actual relationship with someone outside of your marriage and because of that I highly recommend that you get into counseling immediately.

If both you and your husband are Christians, I highly recommend the couples counseling offered through Pure Life Ministries. There is a direct link to their site in the resource section I mentioned above.

I will say a prayer for you and for your husband/marriage.
MT