Questions

Frequently Asked Questions.

Recovering From Pornography and Masturbation

First Question: I have been trying to quit pornography and masturbation for 4 years now. But I cannot escape the cycle of screwing up every 1 to 2 weeks. I will be doing fine for the first week, but by the end of the second week without porn, I’m so (for lack of a better word) horny that I can’t think straight. I doesn’t matter what roadblocks I’ve put up, or precautions I’ve taken, all I care about is the porn. Then, only after my failure can I see how stupid I was. After three weeks or longer does it get any easier? Or will it always be this hard? How can I break this cycle?
Second Question: I know that in order to have any victory over sexual temptation I need to have someone keep my accountable. I know that I cannot do this alone. But, every time I have tried to have an accountability partner in the past it has only lasted a month or two before we get too busy or just forget about meeting or talking. What are some tips to accountability partnership? How do I be consistent? How do I keep it from just being a one sided and dead-end confession?

First Question: You have to remember there is physiological issues with and addiction that screws up your head. You have consumed so much porn that your brain now thinks it needs this in its life. You have removed a chunk from your brain and you now need to replace it with something else. This could be a new hobby, church, or anything that is healthy. YOu need to re-train your brain.

Second Question: One of the hard things about accountability is finding the right person to hold you accountable in this. One suggestion is try to find someone who is your elder. Someone who is more mature in life and is willing to walk with you. Talk to your church and I am sure they can find someone to do this for you. But , you are right that you need to get accountability.

Please do not give up and keep fighting the fight. God loves you so much and He wants you to dig in and beat this thing. We are praying for you.

Post-addiction

I have been free from porn for a while now. The feeling of freedom and god flowing through me is amazing. Now that I’m no longer addicted I find that I want tell people about Christ and go great he is. I have 2 friends that need rescuing from sexual impurity and need to find Christ. I tried tell them about Christ and sexual purity and they completely reject it. I really want to help them and I have been praying over it for a long time.So what do I do next?

No one likes something forced on them. Yes; still talk about Christ in your conversations and let them see how He has changed your life by living the life.

If you push and force your faith on them you may be moving them away from it as well. Be an example of what it is like to be a Christian and just be there for your friends. But, just be real with them.

Porn

Hey, guys. I ve been struggling with porn for a while now.And everyquestion ive seen with the same problem ,you always say that to download X3. I dont have a computer and i always go to a cyber cafe.Is there another way????

Ryan,

You need to tell someone about your struggles and get personal accountability for this. Talk to a youth pastor and bring them into this battle with you.

Set up a game plan for this and let your accountability partner be a force in that plan.

I know it will be hard to do and satan has placed a lot of guilt and shame in your heart but, you need to pull together the strength to move on through all of that.

Please know that you are not alone in this struggle and tha no matter what you have done God will always love you the same.