Questions

Hi, I’m 13, and I’m deeply struggling with masterbation and every now and then porn…..I know it’s not right, and I need some help.
I already know porn is wrong, which is why I can maintain against it for long periods of time. But only if I masterbate, which I’m at war with myself over if it’s right or wrong. Is it a sin to lust if I’m single? I know it is if you’re in a relationship or married, as said in Matthew, but does it count for single people?

And also, recently, this girl I love flirted with me and liked me, and I was all happy and praised God for her. But then, one day, she just stopped liking me, didn’t talk to me, pretty much forgot I existed. It kinda through my life into a deep hole I’m still clawing to get out of. I kind of think it was God’s punishment toward me for my porn and masterbation. I accept it happen, but I can’t get over it. My relationship with God is at the highest it’s ever been, but at points, I just wanna lay down and die. When I first heard the news my relationship with Him was awful, every thought I had (which is like hourly) would make me feel disgusted, and I would feel like I wanted to just give up on God. I didn’t though, for he strengthened me to keep going. Then masterbation just adds to the depression, I can’t go 3 days without it, and each time I do it, I am depressed and distressed and I just can’t stand this. Please help me, I’m so depressed and clawing my way out painfully. Thanks so much, and God bless.

I have a huge problem where i was on fire for God and my lust and masterbation has killed my passion for Christ. I’m so worried. I have no passion to read or when I read my favourite verse. No feeling no nothing its like hes there but i cant feel him. The saddest thing i know he is. I used to be the leader of a youthgroup and i used to minster to kids. I was the thug at a young age and God reached me. Any way i need help and all this stuff on this website is money. My famiyl isnt believers and im poor. i need to get back with God to pursue my vcall to minister kids. i plan on going to bible college this september but i need help and prayer and i was hoping someone could get me it.

I just want to start with stating I am a firm atheist. This is more from an intellectual point of veiw rather than a “God Hates Me” sort of thing. I understand the strong value of religion and what great things it brings, its just not for me.

Anyway, I started masturbating when I was 10 and it was not problematic till I hit high school. It escaladed from once a month to once a week to once a day, sometimes even more. I did not think of it as a problem till I found myself removed from my relationships. I tried to stop, but could not, and told my girlfriend of a year. She left me because we were already struggling. After that I turned to more and more porn rather than just plan masturbation. I found myself hooking up with random girls, and midway through knowing it was wrong but still continuing.

At this point I had been making serious attempts to stop but every time I would fail. One big excuse I told myself was that it was normal for a teenage boy and so I would fall back in. Around march a year ago I stopped the hookups but the porn got worse. I have told friends, family, and teachers about my problem and I still cannot overcome it. About six months things got worse. The only thing that I find myself fully real is in masturbation, but I know it is the thing that is keeping me back from reality. I try to stop but its almost as if another person takes over once the drive hits. I need to stop. We watched your video a couple months ago in class, and Im willing to try anything. I tried your program but my house has multiple computers and I have my phone. And the guilt provoked by my accountability partner was not enough to stop me. Any suggestions? Advice? I need help.